Pushing boundaries

[Shehasadiamondinthesky]

Why do men always have to push the boundaries until a relationship is broken beyond repair and then say they are desperate to get back with you after you've broken up with them, ask for counselling when it's too late?
Both ex husbands constantly pushed the boundaries despite warnings from me several times then turned on the waterworks when I left them.
Is this a bloke thing - see how far you can push someone then act devastated when you walk!!!
Please tell me your stories about partners pushing boundaries to stop me even thinking about having another partner!

No, it's an abusive men thing.

You would be better off doing the Freedom Programme course so you can avoid them in future.

Well, yes, I’ve just had this. My ex did not respect my entirely reasonable boundary wrt his dysfunctional dd. With whom he himself has no boundaries.

He pushed by saying ‘I can’t remember what you said’ I called bollox and now he’s my ex.

Cue him being heartbroken, professing suddenly to see where he’s gone wrong and he is now having counselling sessions twice a week!

I think men just believe they can quite happily disregard our boundaries/words/relationship issues. Particularly the weak ones who haven’t yet grown up.

I feel better for writing this out.

for you (and me).

I think it’s part of seeing you more as ‘mum’ than partner.

They push things til they get sent to the naughty step.

He can stay on that naughty step as far as I’m concerned.

It's an asshole thing. And yeah, probably what pp said. Normal people don't push boundaries, they work within them. They want their partners to be comfortable and happy. Not...stressed and snappy.

I think the key is to work on your own tolerance of bullshit. If you do date, then dont marry then, don't move in with them and dont get pregnant. Treat other people as compliments to your life but know that you do not need them to complete it.