Very new to OLD - anyone used Hinge?

[OzziesBat]

Recently separated from a long marriage that’s been over for a while. Definitely not intending to go out dating any time soon but couldn’t resist a little window shopping….
So what’s the deal? I’ve looked at Hinge and seriously most of the guys on there appear to be good looking, 6’2+, sporty/active, either City/banking jobs or creatives. I’m looking at the 40 something range so we’re not talking early 20s. Sounds too good to be true .
Anyone have good or bad experiences of using Hinge? Are they all in fact 5’6 lay-abouts?

Go for it, why not, theres no pressure to go on a date unless you're really feeling it. If you do, video call first.
I have used hinge, only went on one date from there and there was no spark there, as a dating app I find it quite slow and not had much success myself, although I did recommend it to a colleague and she now has a partner she's moving in with.
I prefer Bumble and met a lovely guy, early days but is going well.

Those sort of guys will only want to have sex with you (handy if that's all you're looking for). If you want to actually date or have a relationship in the future then I'd avoid.

I've used it and it was quite good, until they started charging my bank account without asking me. Beware! I managed to get my money back, but not an apology from Hinge.

I liked hinge. I liked the three random questions that you had to answer which made each profile a bit more interesting. Most of the guys on there I met were a bit more normal and stable than the horrors I found on other sites

Met my lovely DH on there so got warm fuzzy feelings for it!

Thanks all for your responses - a mixed bag! @coronaway Do you mean any guy on Hinge, or just the good looking ones?? I thought I was being smart by avoiding Tinder

@coronaway thats like saying all googlooking people are just after a shag and all ' less visually appealing' folk are genuine?

OP keep your wits about you and only do things you are happy to do on a time line you are happy to be on. That goes the same for online and offline dating though, and it's your life and your choices. Sex on the first date, sex after 6 months, no one else's business. The right person, whether good looking or not, will work with you on the timing x

I would say there is a high probability that a guy you match with who is good looking, tall, good career, athletic etc are just after sex on a dating app regardless of which app you're on. Those sorts of men have almost unlimited options on OLD so it's hard for them to behave any different.

I don't know about hinge, but I'd avoid Tinder, Bumble is good but when I used it the choice was low. POF has the most traffic and you can block fairly easily.

I'm a jaded grump so don't listen to me. I met someone I love on POF but he's a flake so useless. Bumble is ok but I'm only window shopping. I have run out of options several times as I swipe left on more than 99%of them ...not an exaggeration!

I joined hinge after you mentioned it. It makes me feel old. I may instantly delete it. So far ..full of poser idiots which is bad enough when you're young but middle aged posers...god 😩🤢

@Mumteedum Definitely agree about middle aged posers 😂 The worst thing seems to be that you can’t get back to people you’ve seen before - saw a guy when just browsing who I’d like to see again but I reckon he’s gone forever!

[quote OzziesBat]@Mumteedum Definitely agree about middle aged posers 😂 The worst thing seems to be that you can’t get back to people you’ve seen before - saw a guy when just browsing who I’d like to see again but I reckon he’s gone forever![/quote]
No idea how it works...I just flicked through a few doing my standard No ....No...
no....FUCK Nooooo! 😁

I think Hinge is ok. My experience isn't that the good looking ones just want sex. Tinder, bumble and hinge all very similar ime. Just have to weed out the ones you don't want to meet, and then take a leap of faith with the ones you do want to meet. I don't think their looks give any indication of their motives, you have to try to deduce that yourself.

I read that men far outnumber women on Bumble. Maybe because women don't want to make the first move.

Loved Hinge. Met my OH on it & it was more natural than just cold, out of the blue messages :)