Can you talk to me about relationships when both of you are introverts?

[TonyThreePies]

I need advice. I'm an introvert and my DP of nearly 3 years is also an introvert. Literally all of my relationships, friends and romantic, have been with extroverts. I guess I have hidden behind them and fed off their energy.
My DP is the opposite. He is quiet and a closed book. Probably very similar to me. At first I found this so refreshing, so calm but I'm becoming increasingly frustrated by the lack of communication between us. I am trying to encourage him by talking about how I am feeling and encouraging him to do the same.

It's also making me see myself how other people see me - and not in a good way.
He's a lovely guy and I really want things to continue but I just don't feel like I know what's going on in his head!

PS When I say talking about feelings, I don't just mean about how he feels about our relationship, I mean about talking about life in general!

I don't think it's necessarily that helpful to categorise people into introverts and extroverts.

I think it would be more useful to you to consider whether or not this relationship is meeting your needs. Not all extroverts will vocalise their feelings and not all introverts will hide them from their partner.

Does this man make you feel loved in other ways? Is this enough or are you someone who needs to hear "I love you"

Thanks for your post Kylie. I've been love bombed so many times. My DP does things to show he loves me, little things like he'll mow the lawn or fix stuff in my flat but he doesn't tell me he loves me often. But he does at important times. Like recently I had a bad time and he hugged me and told me he loved me. It's said at important times. ExH used to tell me he loved me every time we spoke so I would say it back, it just became words.
But no, he's not meeting my needs at the moment, because I don't know what is going on in his head.

My DP does things to show he loves me, little things like he'll mow the lawn or fix stuff in my flat but he doesn't tell me he loves me often. But he does at important times. Like recently I had a bad time and he hugged me and told me he loved me

I think your DP could be an introvert. But you're not.

You're somewhere in between wanting to feed off his energy yet his personality isn't for you - because he's an introvert.

He shows you he cares. At important times too.

But if you want a talkative man + declarations of love, you're better off leaving as this one sounds too mellow for you.

Labels are rubbish mostly, anyway. If he's a decent man steps up when necessary yet you're umming & aahing because he's not exciting enough then you don't fancy him that's all it comes down to