In short- I think I might need to vent but I need some advice.
Currently 32 weeks pregnant. It has been hideous. Loads of bleeding in and out of hospital.
Happily married for 5 years, together for 11- one other DC together. No issues or concerns. No significant problems.
Found out 2 months ago my partner got a CCJ charging order attached to the house. He states he never got any post (I definitely haven’t) and that he was under impression debt had been paid in full. Upon reviewing everything it seems as though he’s partially being honest and partially lying. Says he called them- he did. It’s on his phone bill. I’m waiting for a log of the call. Told me he had paid it but their statements show he hadn’t (had missed one payment early on and interest was added so we still had a lot outstanding). As part of this process ive seen his old bank statements and he was terrible with money. I don’t think he’s lying about believing this debt was paid but it’s his negligence that hurts. I don’t think he’s hidden post from me- ive been home daily so it would basically be impossible.
I’m now stuck in a house we should have moved from years ago for the next five years whilst we wait for this CCJ to disappear. I am so resentful. I went away last week and I didn’t want to come back. I am so happy but jealous of everyone else. Our plan was to move next year. That’s impossible now.
Then I feel guilty because I don’t think he’s lying about thinking it was paid and not knowing about the CCJ and that marriage is full of tests and we need to stick together. I look at him and love him so much but I’m so sad.
I’m resentful he’s left me to deal with this (he literally doesn’t have a clue) I’m livid for the lat 5 years he’s been so rubbish with money ive taken it all on. I’m so annoyed I’m tied to his financial mess and I’m so anxious about the future.
We have enough to pay the CCJ in full. We are stable.
Sorry this is long and rant filled but I’m just trying to work out what I’m thinking and feeling. I don’t think being pregnant helps 😞