OVER this time. Just a handhold.

[Perriwinkles]

My marriage is over and has been for a couple of years. I moved out a year ago but we continued to meet up as friends (even though he would have favoured ‘friends with benefits’ and made that clear all the way up to yesterday).

Today we finally called it quits and said no more contact. I feel so sad. It’s really over now. He has our dog too which breaks my heart. I kissed the dog goodbye. 😢

I know I can finally move on now but my heart hurts.

Any words of wisdom or comfort gratefully appreciated.

I am so sorry. It’s so hard. Even if it was amicable. Hope you are looking after you and don’t get tempted to message him. Take each day as it comes and just embrace the freedom. Learn to let go of him little by little.

Thanks for responding @Pegsonstrings
It was finally amicable. We’re still not divorced. I suppose I get scared of being so sad as I was depressed in the past.

don’t get tempted to message him is such good advice & it’s what dragged this relationship in for so long.

You will feel a bit stronger every time you resist the urge to contact him.

A better life awaits you. You will be happy again.

@layladomino

Thank you. I wanted so badly to contact him earlier today. I felt excruciatingly lonely and sad for him too. But I resisted and you are right. I never thought of it like that. Restraint is what’ll build strength.

I like your username by the way! Where did it come from?

Thank you! Love the song Layla, so started with that. Layla was taken of course so opted to add part of the band name!

@layladomino

It’s a great song all right. Eric Clapton gets me every time.

Separating from someone is such a painful process. It’s the word process you need to focus on. You are near the end of the process now, one where reality hits and acceptance needs to be found. It’s often the most painful part. Be kind to yourself and avoid all contact. It will get easier, I promise xx

Thank you so much @litterbird you’ve no idea how much your words mean to me, honestly.

You are near the end of the process now, one where reality hits and acceptance needs to be found. It’s often the most painful part

Thank you. Even though my heart is breaking, I know there is no going backwards, only forwards.