Who gives a vegetarian 2 BEEF burgers?!

[waypastthefinalstraw]

This is the final final straw. Not even going to say DH because he's not, I'm not even going to say what I think of him. I am vegetarian. We've been busy today so we decided to have Macdonalds. So he says what do you want, I say the usual. So he comes back with 2 BEEF burgers and thinks that's ok. I am sick to death of him and really feel this is just another passive aggressive attempt to piss me off. Just want to cry and then leave, wish I had the energy

Find the energy and leave. It’s not going to magically change.

That is just spiteful. I would pack his bags

How the fuck has he not noticed that his own wife is a vegetarian?! He’s either spectacularly thick or nasty. Either way, not good husband material. LTB

If you're vegetarian and not someone who's "85% veggie but like a steak and a bacon roll", I would absolutely leave him. DH is veggie and I just couldn't imagine doing this to him. Total lack of respect for you.

I just can't understand why someone would do that. Sounds like a mad reason to LTB but must be symptomatic of a bad relationship.

1. LTB

1. Go to Burger King instead and have the Vegan Royale

No I don't eat meat at all. It's a hard call honestly, so many times I've started to make a note of all the things he does and then he does something nice and I think it must be me so I delete it.

I am so so confused. It's so hard to tell if he is "spectacularly thick or nasty".... he must be good!

@waypastthefinalstraw

No I don't eat meat at all. It's a hard call honestly, so many times I've started to make a note of all the things he does and then he does something nice and I think it must be me so I delete it.

I am so so confused. It's so hard to tell if he is "spectacularly thick or nasty".... he must be good!

That sounds like the "cycle of abuse" - and its deliberate. He is DELIBERATELY using the occasional nice thing to keep you in a state of confusion. Have a Google and read Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft.

That's awful OP. I would leave him. What a horrible human being. I'd look at his actions, not his words - he's supposed to love you, bet there's no way he'd be so shitty to a random colleague for example.

Is your vegetarianism new?

Wow! As an ex veggie / vegan, who now has very strict dietry requirements due to illness, I would be SO upset if my DH purposefully got me something I couldn't eat.

Or... If he forgot that's just as bad - eating is a fundamental of being human, if you somehow manage to forget that your vegetarian partner doesn't eat beef that's just serious levels of not caring.

Either way I'd be fuming OP and I'm so sorry this has happened.

Did you think to ask him the question? So H are you just incredibly thick or really nasty because I can’t make my mind up what one you are or what one is worse. Either way the lack of respect is telling.

Get out quickly

Did he order two beef burgers? Our local McDonald's is shocking, last time i was out for the evening DH got himself McDonald's, didn't question why the bag was so heavy he'd ordered a burger meal, got home two burger meals some cheese bites and a chicken selects meal. He was so excited he sent me a picture.

I’m sorry this happened to you, I’m vegetarian also and know how hurtful and disgusting it is to be served meat when people KNOW how you feel about it, never mind your husband!

I agree with the others it seems very passive aggressive and just frankly, not respectful to you at all.

I accidently put Sugar in DH coffee the other week, I could not stop apologising to him and he actually drank it, he has been sugar free for a year but he normally makes the coffee. But he is also vegetarian and I'm quite conscious of cross contamination, and have even pulled him up on it as he has mistakenly done something.
But to buy burgers is awful especially as it's not something to mix up easily, such lack of respect towards you.

I don’t get it. Surely he realises that the food is going straight in the bin? What a waste. What a wanker he is.

Oh no so sorry to hear that OP. I can’t believe your husband would do that. Definitely something else going on there

Does he know what your usual order is?

@toolazytothinkofausername

1. LTB

1. Go to Burger King instead and have the Vegan Royale

Another veggie here. Just to second the vegan royale. Had one at a services where there were no other options! And it was super yummy

@RaininSummer

I just can't understand why someone would do that. Sounds like a mad reason to LTB but must be symptomatic of a bad relationship.

I agree with this.

Years back I was (I thought) grumbling to a friend about something 'small' but annoying and thoughtless (and absolutely impacted me) my partner had done. I was completely startled when the friend said "why don't you leave?" - I hadn't thought I was anywhere close to that, and this one event seemed such a silly reason to end a 4-year, cohabiting, talking-about-marriage-one-day relationship.

But it was symptomatic of a bad relationship, and it took a while but from that point I started gradually getting out of it. I only realised in retrospect how toxic, controlling and damaging the relationship was.

It's easy to project onto a brief post of a single incident on here, but I can't see any defensible reason for your partner to bring you a fucking beef burger and I suspect he is a twat and you would be well rid.

He's been doing things like this for so long, years and when I get upset or annoyed he turns it on me and makes out I'm over-reacting as if he's the victim and I'm always having a go at him. I keep wondering if it is me but then most of the time I'm just minding my own business and he does something and it's like he's waiting for me to react. I remember what time I deliberately pretended I hadn't heard what he had said when he was doing something to wind me up and he repeated himself again to make sure I heard. I'm typing and I feel as though I must sound crazy!
He's gone totally quiet now all evening as usual after such events. I'move been sat alone with my daughter.
This is awful.
No one has any idea what sort of person he is. He acts like he's so much fun around his clients

My ex did this...the repeating of saying things that he knew would get to me when I pretending I hadnt heard, thats how I knew it was deliberate nastiness and not "just" (ha!) thoughtlessness or selfishness. He was doing it to hurt me or punish me for some perceived crime.

Note...EX

What is "the usual" for a vegetarian from McDonalds? There is nothing on the menu here that a vegetarian could eat except a side salad and a strawberry-banana smoothie. Even the potatoes are deep fried in fat.

@GeorgiaGirl52

What is "the usual" for a vegetarian from McDonalds? There is nothing on the menu here that a vegetarian could eat except a side salad and a strawberry-banana smoothie. Even the potatoes are deep fried in fat.

Where do you live?

In the UK there are the Spicy Veggie Wrap and Vegetable Deluxe which, to quote McFucker's own menu, are both suitable for vegetarians and have been approved by the Vegetarian Society.