stuck in the middle of cheating brother and his lovely girlfriend

[needtobeamummy]

feeling in the middle of somthing i think is so wrong and dunno what to do! just found out that my brother who is currently engaged has been sleeping with my dp cousin! we all went away this weekend me, dp, bro his dp and a couple of friends! just found out today that while we were away my brother and dp cousin were 'at it' while his poor girlfiend was in the room next door! im totally furious that the shits could do this right infront of her nose! dunno wether to confront them! so bloody mad at them both

do you mind me asking how you found out, and do you know its definetly the truth? how terrible if it is

i knew they were flirting and told my other friend to keep an eye on them, she just text me to tell me to call her and they thought she was asleep but she wasnt and she caught them at it! she didnt wanna tell me but she felt crap , she aint 1 to bull shit! foaming as i am good frinds with both dp's cousin and brothers gf

send your brother an annoymous email saying you've found out and think he should sort himself out. see what he does next

just text him and asked him what the hell he was playing at at the weekend and that i think he is a shit for being so god damn horrible! as yet no reply! dp cousin has just called me but rejected the call cant bare to talk with her just now

its getting bloody worse! just had brothers gf on phone hes finished with her she hasnt got a clue why, sorry to bother you with my worries just dunno who to talk to!

are you friendly with the lovely girlfriend?
If so you could initiate a chat with her and try and console her as best as you can. I don't see no reason why you shouldn't tell her what happened, after all she will find out sooner or later, besides it doesn't sound like a good start to a marriage (being engaged and cheating is not right).
It's so terrible. What was he thinking? Have you spoken to him (texting is not quite the same) to tell him how stupid he has been?

I think you should talk to her brother first, and see if you can talk him round to being honest with her. She deserves that at least! How terrible for her.

oops i meant your brother

yeah friends with her go to the gym with her! cant help thinking that my loylties lie with my brother thou although where were his loylties at the weekend! ive tried to call he's at work thou and cant answer the call! she'S probs better off without him if he can do it while shes in the next room god knows what he gets up to while she aint there! feel really mad!

I think that if you want to protect your relationship with her, perhaps you should tell her. If you don't and she finds out that you knew, she might not want to talk to you again. I know that I would feel terribly betrayed if a friend didn't tell me about something like that. The way I view it, it doesn't matter that he is your brother, he's done something majorly wrong so don't let your loyalties get over that fact. He'll still be there at the end of the day, whereas your friend might not.

how awful what has dp cousin said on the matter surely she has to take somekind of responsibilty for her actions afterall she knew he was taken, what kind of woman is she! sorry this makes me mad.

i know shes my friend but i honestly feel like falling out with her!.. i mean what kinda person am i friends with... sorry going to stop ranting and get on with my day!

What a terrible position to put you in. I think you should talk to your brother first and try to get him too see sense - that he should tell her properly why he doesn't want to marry her any more. It may be that your email made him realise that he doesn't really love her if he can do that to her, and therefore he has finished it. You need to get him to understand what a terrible position he has now put you in, and that you should not be the one to tell her that he cheated.

It's not really your business though at the end of the day. If it is over, then that is the end of it - but he owes her an explanation, and you the chance to still be her friend without having to lie to her. Him telling her the truth would enable her to see what a t&$ser he is would mean you could do what a friend is meant to and comfort her through it.

Good luck with it. She's better off without him by the sounds of things

are your brother and gf finished now?