At what point did you suddenly realise you had healed from a broken heart?

[pinklizard2021]

Just that really.
It's taken me years and years to get over my ex husband and the horrific divorce, but now, although I'm still single, something seems to have shifted and I no longer get those painful feelings.
When did you realise that you were finally over the pain?

The biggest thing for me was actually wanting to be with someone else, who I later went on to marry. I was single for 7yrs, I dated a couple of people but as soon as they wanted more from me I ended things. When I met DH I wanted to spend time with him.

I just found out that my ex-husband has recently remarried (he lives abroad and they have a baby together). When I found out I had no emotional reaction to him remarrying at all, it could have been anybody!

When I stopped thinking about him every day and when I did think about him it just felt neutral.

When he offered me everything I wanted (a few years after we broke up), I said no and felt relief. Still do.

With exh it was such a car crash I had other stuff than just heartbreak to get me through. I knew I had no feelings for him after a year or so. But I was greiving the person I thought he was so there was not one moment I ever wanted him back. Because I knew he never really existed.

My boyfriend I met after several years who I unexpectedly fell deeply for ...I'm still counting as to when or if I will be over him. He still rings me all the time. Makes noises about getting back together but it never happens. I stopped hoping we would or expecting it to. I'm still in therapy so I guess I'm making progress. I've recently realised that I just feel numb like I did after my exh. I don't want anyone else. I'm thinking I have this apathy to get through before I feel any optimism again about meeting anyone else...if I ever do. Maybe I'll accept I'll be alone forever.

Sorry...not doing a great job of being positive for you here @pinklizard2021

I had my heart broken two years ago and I will never get over it - ever.