Bg: was with this man 3months. Didn't know it at the time but he defo love bombed me. My relationships have all been toxic in a way but of course he convinced me he was here to show me how I deserved to be treated. Showered with gifts, compliments and way to quickly- love. I felt something was not quite right , couldn't put my finger on it. I do have a little girl- kept her out/ away from relationship. She goes to school so I would see him everyday and spend every other weekend with him.
Fast forward to today, I'm attached to this guy but in the past week he's told me he doesn't love me, hasn't for a while, he admits to using me for benefits, thinks I'm fat! Met with his ex the day after leaving me, she obviously messaged me to rub it in, he's listed everything insecurity and everything he hates about me to her. Quite a few lies about how I would take his money and called him heartless. ( I didn't know all of it right away and of course he didn't admit anything straight away) He then made me seem like I was overreacting came to see me, made me feel I could trust in him and then fu**ed off again after I found everything out and he had told me all the other stuff and I'm in bits. I have just started a new job, around the 25th already taken two days off sick because of him, and now struggling to do anything( partly due to 2nd Covid jab) but mainly because I suffer with anxiety& depression anyway but this has made it so much worse, where he has been staying my house is trashed I don't have the energy to do anything to it& my daughter just came home from her dads so trying to stay cheery for her but I'm a mess I know he gaslighted me, but now wants to see me again but couldn't care less when he left and I was in bits& I don't feel like I want to work, or do anything tbh but just take care of my little girl. I'm mainly writing this for advice on how to feel normal again. I don't really have many people to talk to. My family are supportive but don't quite get it and just feel myself always going back to talking to him.