Seriously fed up of non straight forward guy/dating!!!!

[Sarz1991]

I am almost ready to throw in the towel with online dating!!!!! Why can't guys just send a simple "I am not interested anymore " instead of stringing you along!!!

So I went on a date with a guy on Thursday evening who I fancied and I felt about 80% sure he fancied me. So he sends me a text at 11pm that night "Hope you got home OK, it was nice meeting you this eve😉". So that was nice of him but i still was totally convinced he was THAT into me.

But anyway I replied to him the next morning and said I enjoyed it too and made reference to something we had said during the date. So we send a few texts back and forth throughout the day, we were obviously working too, and then he finally asks if I am free to do something for a few hours Sunday morningas he has a match Saturdayeve and a match Sunday eve. I say yes and then he says that it shouldn't be any problem but we might have to leave it till next week because he could get called in for a recovery session Sunday morning after the match Saturday eve. So long story short he said he would let me know Saturday eve/night REGARDLESS.

So the last contact we had was Saturday morning where he said the above HOWEVER he never let me know last night. And he was online on WhatsApp so it wasn't as if he couldn't let me know. So because I am sick of being strung along I messaged him this morning with a friendly So I guess you called in for the recovery session? He replied with "sorry I was conked last night and completely forgot to message you. Yep I did, and I've to go over and do work in my sisters house for a few hours and then I've the match this eve. So a busy day, have you any plans?" Like seriously?! I am getting really fed up!!. So I just messaged and said "not much but I might go for dinner with my friend later". This was an hour and a half ago and after almost sending a message calling him out on not letting me know last night, my friend said just leave it and delete his number because he hadn't even seen my message to him so he must not be that interested! But why arrange So soon to meet up and then not have the decency to just let me know🙈🙈🙈😥

Yeah I'd leave it at that.

Bit of a cheeky git asking you if you had any plans for the day when he was supposed to catch up with you about today.

Tbh I would have backed off when he started shifting the goalposts about meeting up.

It is poor form. He probably would have been happy to see you again but not enough to prioritise it over anything else (obvs work can't be helped) or to think of letting you know.

He may well have met up with someone the following evening he liked more.

When I did online dating many moons ago, I had no expectations of seeing someone else again until a real interest had been established because I was as likely to be the one who did this as they were.

That first meet up is no different to meeting someone in a pub and having a drink and a chat with them for a couple of hours. I wouldn't expect all (any) of those to turn into something more.

Who knows... people can behave so strangely... I am honestly more amazed when I meet someone with common decency than when I meet someone without it.

Your friend is right, delete/block and move on. Fancying someone isn’t the same as respecting someone. Just coz he might have fancied you doesn’t mean he would have ALSO treated you with respect.

What frustrates me more is that he was so quick to arrange another date. Ok fair enough he was probably on a date with someone else but my goodness am I not even worth a 2nd date!! OK I know i shouldn't be making such a deal about it but he did message me back after my short message saying he had been putting it off for a while regarding the work in his sisters house because he's a carpenter, but still no mention of arranging a 2nd date and we had agreed that if he couldn't make Sunday that we'd meet the following week. But no mention of course. So I just replied with a enjoy the rest of your day and he hasn't replied since or even bothered to look at my message. I really would like to call him out on it because I am just sick of docks like these getting away with hurting a girls feelings like that. Yes I know it was only a first date BUT don't suggest a 2nd date within a day and then not even bother to reply.

I really would like to call him out on it because I am just sick of docks like these getting away with hurting a girls feelings like that.

I completely get how you feel but, honestly, some random telling him that is definitely not going to make him suddenly think ‘oh, I’ve done something bad, I feel terrible, I’m such a disrespectful person’.

If you want to make a point then do the opposite, show him what happens, he gets deleted and blocked, and the person who does it to him doesn’t even give him a glancing look over her shoulder to see what the reaction is.

Bloody hell, are you dating a premier league footballer or something?