My birthday he didn't even bother

[flower2345]

Hi, I'm really hurt. My and my partners relationship isn't the best. But the one day of the year I thought he would of made some effort.

He didn't even get me a card let alone a birthday present.
I feel like he's checked out

I'm very sorry op.
Happy birthday
People can be so selfish sometimes.
How long have you been together?

13 years

Christ, is this the first time he hasn't bothered?
You say your relationships not the best but that's no excuse to not get you anything for your birthday, it's shocking.
Have you just recently started to not get on etc?

Go and talk to him. Go on. Tell him how hurt you are and tell him it's not too late for him to go out and buy you something for your birthday. Be honest.

I think 13 years is long enough in a relationship thst isn’t the best...

Life is too short to live like that.

I’m sorry he didn’t bother.

Happy Birthday! Get yourself some and and and a little present as well.

If he's known about it the last 12 years, he's passively aggressively sending out a message. Honestly, what's the point, sounds like it's died.
I'd go in full pelt and say I think we might as well split, either he will be surprised and start wanting to talk, or he will agree, then you will have your answer.

Happy birthday OP....the relationship sounds like its coming to its natural end. It happens and he may have well checked out already. What is your situation? Has he talked about marriage, do you have a house together, children? If I were you I would quietly make plans to look at an alternative life for yourself if this relationship has come to an end. Sorry OP hope your family and friends have remembered xx

Happy birthday! Give yourself the present of being single, it’ll be the best present ever

Firstly, happy birthday.

Secondly, life is too short to live in a shit relationship. It sounds as though you're right and he has checked out.

What is your living situation?

I think you need to split up and that you'd be happier without him.

Happy birthday @flower2345 I think this tells you all you need to know. If there is any question over the reason then I'd ask him - why no birthday card? - if he looks mortified and says he totally forgot but dashes out and gets you something or suggests eating out tonight, then that's one thing. If he shrugs his shoulders and says 'what't the point' then that's another.

But you say your r'ship is less than great, so maybe take this as the turning point to split?

Happy birthday @flower2345.

Go to the shop, buy yourself some wine and treats and enjoy them yourself.

He's sending a very clear message, but you can think about that tomorrow.

Yea, relationship no longer important to him.
Happy birthday

Well you know what to get him for his birthday.....

Nothing or separation.

Happy Birthday Flower

I always remember reading a quote from Caroline Quentin who said she knew her marriage to Paul Merton was over when he bought her a foot spa for Christmas. I felt the same when I suddenly stopped getting a valentine or anniversary card and got two pairs of Primark slipper boots for Christmas.

I think he's very clearly showing you that he's checked out and that sucks.

What a dick.

Happy Belated Birthday