Help me stop being so critical of DH's parenting

[birdglasspen]

DH is fed up of the way I nit pick everything he does with children. I'm not even aware I'm doing it. I guess I like to be in control, right now I need a lot if help, two young kids, a new baby and had a section, before this had PGP and couldn't do a lot without being in pain.

Well, firstly I think you need to give us a few examples - does he simply do certain things differently from you, or do you consider his methods to be ineffective/dangerous/making a rod for your backs etc?

(I'm presuming it's the first if you don't even realise you're doing it...)

I am naturally critical so I've learned to leave the room or take the dog out for a walk if he is doing stuff I disagree with e.g. winding the kids up before bed or not using active listening when the kids tell him something. But sometimes little jabs slip out, especially if it's to do with his over-enthusiastic use of his smartphone.