I can't trust my judgement or see things clearly. I'll try and write in points as it's too much to go through all of it.
3 young kids with nasty emotionally abusive man
Left to a refuge last year, he is a coward and scared him enough to agree to leave amd me and the kids came back to the same town.
He had access a couple of times a week
It worked for a while mostly
He's continually lying almost constantly to get out of having them. Ridiculous lies, forged covid results, pretending to be trapped somewhere, the list is endless. All proven lies.
The children are obviously feeling this as they adore him.
I took legal advice and was told I should stop contact due to the emotional harm being caused and let him take me to court.
I discussed it with him to give him a chance and he was desperate to have them. He never did. He made up another lie
So that was supposed to be his last chance. He's now pulling out all the stops to beg to see them and I'm trained in my head to fall for it but if o do he will do it again won't he?
He did this to me a lot amd now it's like he's doing it to them to get to me.
I do want to believe him for their sake but his behaviour hasn't changed in 10 years so it probably won't now will it?
I don't want to keep them apart but they are being crushed almost every time now. He dotes on them for two hours when he does see them, makes a million promises then without any conscience tells outrageous lies to avoid them.
I should add he continues to shout at me on the phone or at pick up and he allows his new partner to do the same.
I don't believe I'm keeping kids from parents if possible but is it right here? I don't know and everyone here has opinions that don't help because they're all filled with emotion.