I've recently separated from my husband. Together 16 years married 11 years. 2 children 10 and 5. The decision to separate was mines. He has agreed and not challenged at all. We are completely amicable and doing a bird nest childcare arrangement. We have had a sexless marriage for years only having sex once a year or 2 even. The problem with sex was mines but he hasn't challenged for years. I understand that there's more to it in terms of why we got here. His inability to communicate or connect with me (currently going through ADD assessment) I have anxiety and after the birth of our children this got worse. Lots more obviously. Essentially I chose to walk away because I do not feel that way for him and haven't for a long time. I don't feel that can or will ever change. I have had thoughts of being with other men over the years so I do have an interest just not in him. But I am absolutely heartbroken. He's my best friend and an amazing dad. We had a nice life together. I am struggling to cope emotionally. He's not one for emotions and is coping well although I know he would want tor reconcile if I would try. I am so worried about my mental health and considering trying to make things work and force myself to have sex. Deep down though I know there's no going back as I've been thinking more and more about other men and even joined online dating. I've had a bit of counselling that helped at the time but I'm spiraling and just feel devastated. Any words of wisdom to help me get through this horrendous time?