Am I over reacting?

[Mum330]

We live in a house my partners parents brought in there name I was told it was in my partners name by them, got pregnant with our son that we planned to do, we have a daughter as well it’s a 2 bed house so need to move now as my son is 1 and keeps waking up in the night and I’m not sleeping! (Starting to take its toll on me) Was told house would go on market this summer and previous last year they was going to, but now not putting on market for how long I don’t know! I want to rent as need to move now partner doesn’t want to as says waste of money, but I’m done and this summer was the time limit to move, no reason why we can’t move they just can’t be bothered I think. I’m at that point where I would just rent a house me and the kids, am I over reacting?

I don’t know if you are over reacting. If you want to live somewhere else with your partner, then you need his agreement. Which he doesn’t seem to want to give. And his parents don’t want to sell the one he lives in.

Which is all just a symptom of an obvious problem. You aren’t really equal and open partners in this relationship. He, not his parents, lied about a very big thing to you. Because he knew he didn’t own the property.

Yes this is the problem need to do what’s best for all of us just had enough now as need to get our son into a sleep routine, thanks for your response just want an out siders opinion.

So you don't pay rent? Guess that's explanatory on why he doesn't want to move and pay his own bills!
Make arrangements for you and the dc to find a new home. An easy life he wants. A better life you want.

I'd move out.

He is living rent free in his parents' house, which they don't appear to have any intention of selling. He doesn't want to move and become a grown up. That's his choice.

But you don't need to stay with him. Move on.

I agree. I’d get a house of your own and move you and the kids out.

No don’t pay rent I pay for food and bills and everything for the kids he does give me some money throughout the year but not much, the agreement was I would pay bills etc and not pay rent but realising I’m out of pocket as I’m paying for everything really. I know I’m lucky to have a roof over my head I did say that we should get a mortgage at the start together he said when we have a baby would sell up. He works for family business doesn’t really get a wage has money when he needs it.

I don’t know where you live and what your intentions are, but I’d be looking at starting a mortgage with the intention of the kids inheriting your part.

So his current set up is he lives rent free in his parents house and you pay everything else 🤔

Can't imagine why he doesn't want this set up to continue 🤦‍♀️

@Mum330

No don’t pay rent I pay for food and bills and everything for the kids he does give me some money throughout the year but not much, the agreement was I would pay bills etc and not pay rent but realising I’m out of pocket as I’m paying for everything really. I know I’m lucky to have a roof over my head I did say that we should get a mortgage at the start together he said when we have a baby would sell up. He works for family business doesn’t really get a wage has money when he needs it.

Come on. You don’t really think he lives off pocket money?

He’s lying to you, concealing his finances and letting you pay for his children. He’s managed it so that even if you do move out he won’t be paying CMS on his parental pocket money.

He works long hours and does work hard but because it’s a family business he just has money when he needs it, but yes I know he does have it easy.

Stop paying for anything, start saving. His turn to pay for everything. Give yourself 6 months to build up a fund so you can get out.

Are you working full time OP?

Doesnt get a wage

Wtf is he a teenager doing it for pocket money ?

That's just ridiculous

We have split tonight so not my problem no more! Thank you for all your comments 😊

Well done you. Live the life you want.

Thank you I will.