Is anyone ever 100% happy

[mum241986]

Been in a relationship for 4 years,Iv never been 100% happy from day one. Probably about 80% happy

Now I'm 50% happy,is that enough.

I always think the grass is greener etc
But is it....I always think other couples are really happy but are they or is it all for show🤔

Well i dont know anyone who is 100% happy all of the time but at 50% I dont think thats enough, why spend half of your life unhappy?.
I suppose it depends why your not happy, is it small things that you look at others with rose tinted glasses on or is it big things??

How could anyone be 100% happy? That’s just not possible.

What is about your relationship that makes you unhappy?

When you say the grass is greener, do you mean fancying other people or that they have better relationships than you?

Of course not. You might be for a very fleeting moment. A day maybe.
But real life always brings things that are irritating, boring or upsetting.
No couple is happy all the time. There will always disagreements and disappointments.
Long term relationships will even go through extended periods where it’s all a bit shit.
Only you can decide if the compromises are worth it.

And you kind of have to weigh up why you're in a relationship, if it doesn't make you happy? Are you afraid of being single?

I don't think any relationship is all flowers and sunbeams all the time, but I do think you can expect more than 50% happy.

And not all single people are 100% happy 🤷‍♀️

Happiness is sourced from different places. Not one person or relationship can deliver full happiness. Not one person's responsibility.
Career
Children
Hobbies
Friends
Physical health
Mental health
a few examples of what can contribute to overall level of happiness

Sometimes the relationship goes through hard times and is low on happiness, others you can be having a hard time at work or in health and your relationship is what keeps your happiness up.

Think I'm only ever 100 percent happy when I'm on holiday and all the stresses of every day life are temporarily absent

100% happy overall, or in a relationship?

I don’t think anyone is ever 100% happy all the time, with everything.

I am 100% happy in my relationship with DH and can’t remember it ever being any different, certainly not below 90%, but we’re extraordinarily well matched and I am very grateful that we met each other. I’m not a big believer in fate, but the chances must have been low!

Are you 50% happy with the relationship, or 50% happy with life? And if the latter, is the relationship making that better or worse?

I am only 100% happy when I am in the theatre watching a show or any time with my daughter. Other than that I am about 80% happy most of the time. I never hinge my happiness on a bloke I am with....took me decades to learn that, but I eventually got there. Today my happiness came from a good gym workout, coffee with friends and now looking forward to dinner with another friend I haven't caught up with for a while. The OH is gigging for the first time in 18 months so he is happy which makes me happy too. Life ebbs and flows...sometimes OP the grass is greener.....just saying'.

It's hard to put a percentage on happiness, but 50% sounds too low to me. Can you give more details about the things in your relationship that make you unhappy or that you would like to be different?

I don’t think that you can quantify it like that. I’m 100% certain my husband is the right man for me and I have no doubts about our relationship on a fundamental level. However, in the 18 years we’ve been together of course there have been challenges and rough patches. As other posters have said I get fulfilment from my job and other relationships as well as my marriage.

I'm 100% happy in the relationship and always have been. (But we've been through some tough times together and of course we're not always "happy" as in "constantly cheerful".)

100% is probably unattainable but 50% is too low, especially if the reasons are abusive or feeling unloved and unsupported.

I agree with everyone else. 100% is impossible but for me 50% wouldn't be enough.

I remember a woman I once worked with saying you, at the very least, have to be in a 60/40 relationship (60% happy).

Really depends on if you mean happiness in life or your relationship. Overall life happiness - changes day by day depending on how work is going, how busy I am, how well I feel, if I get some down time, sometimes hormones, the mood and health of people around me, etc etc. Relationship happiness - very happy. Some days one or both of us might be irritable or unreasonable so it's never going to be 100%, but on the whole always high. I think in relationship terms, if you're 50% happy then it isn't a good r'ship for you. Understanding why is important. Is it anything you can change or are you fundamentally very different people?