DH isn't very organised with his time and will mention wanting to do something with friends or do a hobby right at the last minute.
I find myself saying that it's not good timing a lot and he doesn't go and will get resentful. I then feel really guilty because I want him to go and do things, but it will be when we've made plans already or I'm doing something myself. He thinks I just don't want him to do anything which isn't the case at all, I enjoy having a bit of space tbh!
Tomorrow, I'm going away for the day and then overnight with a friend, which has been planned for a month. Then yesterday, he asked me if I minded him going to an event for the day today, a few hours drive away, which would mean him not returning home until the early hours. Planned in, this would be fine, but he's supposed to be leaving at 8am tomorrow morning to take the DCs out with his parents for the day to a theme park which his parents have organised. He has to drive 1.5 hours each way and he will have only had a few hours sleep.
I've said I don't know if it's a great idea when he'll be tiring himself out and then driving on the motorway with DCs but I also feel really hypocritical if I say no hwen Im going away with my. friend.
There are loose plans for today, but they can easily be changed to accommodate him, I'm just not sure he's thinking through the timing very well considering he has a full on day with DCs tomorrow.
He could probably have mentioned this earlier, like every other time he does this and maybe have had a quieter day with the DCs instead. He just doesn't manage his time very well at all.
Any thoughts?