Fuming at DH and wondering if I am overreacting? He works where he is dealing with the public in a place I go for leisure purposes (and have done before he was working there). Today I am going to be there swimming and was also going to say hello when I was there. He blatantly said that he didn't want the people he is working with to me me looking like I did after swimming and that he likes to "show me off" not have people seeing me all bedraggled. He then tried to back track a bit and say he is at work and needs to concentrate and be professional. To put this last comment into context about 2 months ago I was at his place of work and saw him with a colleague. I was polite but didn't make a fuss, talk for long or kiss him etc. On that occasion he tore strips off me later in the day for being "off" with him. When I said he was at work, surely he didn't want me to kiss him as etc he said he didn't give a toss about that, wanted the attention (and again made a comment about wanting to show me off) - on this occasion clearly my looks met with his approval! He tells me I am beautiful a lot but it is always on his terms and little controlling ways about how I look - for example telling me my hair needs washing (and will say it like "are you going to shower before you go out - your hair needs washing) or "why are you wearing that, it makes you look frumpy/fat/etc - why don't you wear xyz you look really nice in that. I am not someone who dresses up to the nines everyday but equally I am clean and well presented. I know people want their partners to look nice but I think he oversteps the mark into controlling and I am so cross about his comment last night that I haven't slept well thinking about it. We have been together 26 years with 2 teenage daughters, and this thing about how I look has really been going on for several years now and is really getting me down.