Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Help!

2 replies

Yolo2021 · 07/08/2021 01:20

Hi,

New to this thread. I had a baby with my ex and he left when my baby was 2 months old. Since then I've been a single mum. Now back at work full time. Life has changed so dramatically to what I thought it would be.

We are now CO parenting and it's working ok. Only thing is I've told him although I don't want to be with him, and same for him I still feel the emotional connection. It's hard to forget the memories we have had and the fact we share a a child together and since I briefly mentioned it for the first time the other day he's said he feels nothing. It's made me feel worthless and that us having a baby together meant nothing. It's much closure I needed but how can someone be that heartless?

I understand he is quite the narcissistic and maybe that's the problem that whenever I bring things up he diverts to how he felt and the struggles he felt... I can't relate because I've been left to be a single mum on my own but yet I'm so accommodating to him. Always keep him updated with photos etc when he doesn't see our DC at weekends.

Can someone help me? Is there something wrong with me and what I'm saying?

Thanks!

OP posts:
DoucheCanoe · 07/08/2021 01:25

It sounds like he was trying to shut any conversation about there still being a "connection" between you before it complicated things.

There's nothing wrong with you but equally I think he's just being honest.

uktrippin · 07/08/2021 01:43

It's not heartless or narcissistic to tell someone the truth, you will both meet people in the future so it's quite practical to admit that you're co-parenting rather than clinging on to some emotional bond.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page