Not sure if I am ready-please help

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This might be long but I’ll try to keep it short.
It’s been a bumpy ride. I met DH in our teens, together 6 years and got married, and been married for two and had our now 11 month old DD and long story short, we separated in April this year. It was a long time coming, we drifted when I was pregnant, he struggled with having a baby, I have severe PND and I recently ended up in hospital after an attempt.
I’ve been on here numerous times for support of my mental health. It’s been horrendous.
But back in June I met this lovely guy who has a son of his own, and it turns out we both work at the same place in different departments. Been on two dates and chat all day every day. He’s lovely, caring, thoughtful, but also has a wild side which is nice. He’s been so nice and a breath of fresh air to have a man genuinely care about me.
But tonight I’m suddenly starting to feel like I really am not well enough. I don’t think I can carry on with things when I feel the way I do mentally because I’m worried It'll out a strain on things. Selfishly too I don’t have the time for a relationship when things are so rocky. I didn’t think things would go as well as they have, so I almost didn’t prepare for the fact someone might genuinely fall for me. I am so broken and bruised I felt unlovable.
Obviously we are not officially a couple by any means but he has made numerous comments about how well things are going, that he has a good feeling about us, but I’m not well. But how do I tell him? He knows I suffer from MH and On new meds for it but he doesn’t know how bad I am as it was far too soon to tell him. But how do I tell him I don’t think I’m ready?
I don’t want to hurt him but I can’t keep going because that's even more cruel.
He’s away at the moment with his son and is back Sunday night and has said he’s got me a little something, so he genuinely really does care and I feel so so mean :(
Please advise me. I really need some guidance

Ello, he sounds like a good man so should want the best for you. You’ve barely had time to take a breath . Focusing on yourself is absolutely the right decision.

If it was me I wouldn’t put my MH at any further risk & would message him today. I don’t think this is something you should sit with all weekend. You’ve summed it up beautifully above so could write something very similar x

Show him this message
You describe it perfectly , he's a decent man
He will understand and perhaps in the future who knows ...

Thanks so much for your lovely replies. I was worried I would get jumped on or that I was being unreasonable.
I’ve just spoken to him on the phone, he says he completely understands and he’s happy to take it slow and that he wants the best for me. It’s so hard x

Well done! It’s really bloody hard. Just make sure he knows exactly what you want. ‘Taking it slow’ still sounds like a relationship and taking time for yourself completely is so important x

You need to fall in love with yourself, OP. Stop worrying about the big stuff, and just imagine, on an ongoing basis, what you'd love a person to do for you; 'What would someone do right now that would really make me feel that they truly loved me?'

Then do those things for yourself. After a while, you'll get attached to the feeling of being lovely to yourself, and you'll push aside things that make you feel less good, like relationships you're not ready for, or people who don't treat you well. That 'pushing aside' response is called self respect.

Pull away from things that unsettle you - including this guy. If he's your dream guy, he'll still be around in 6 months when you're feeling a bit more settled. And if he's not? Right guy, wrong time. Your life doesn't revolve around your relationship with him; your life revolves around you making choices that make you feel settled, and don't make you panic.

If you want to take it slow take it slow for real. No talking all day every day anymore. It’s too much right now.