Was this abusive or am I over sensitive?

[LankyGal]

I split up with my bf of 2.5 years as I felt he coerced me sexually. I said no to sex but he carried on touching me sexually saying things like "It's not my fault you're so sexy" and complaining that we hadn't had sex recently. Eventually, I had sex with him as I felt so pressured but I felt uncomfortable and afterwards, I told him that I felt he had coerced me when I had said no. He agreed and apologised and said it wouldn't happen again. I ended the relationship as I wasn't sure I could trust his word. He was very angry about this and blamed me saying I never loved him etc. I keep being plagued by doubts that maybe I over reacted and hadn't been emphatic enough about saying no in the first place?

Hell no, you are not being oversensitive. Good riddance to this ignorant sex pest.

You're instincts are right and he's carrying on his emotional manipulation making you feel this way.
Well done on getting out. Block him everywhere and give yourself time. You got the ick - that was for a reason and he was the cause. He can think what he likes, he's history and you'll be looking to be with someone who can control their urges and wants you to want sex before he does that with you, like a decent man would.

Well done. You did the right thing.

Plus people who don't like not getting their way do tend to get angry when the object of their attention gets an opinion of their own. Funny that. Toddler brained $*@!

There's no such thing as over sensitive. There will always be people in any given situation who would be more sensitive than you, and people who would be less sensitive than you.

You are the exact level of sensitivity that's right for you. Your feelings are signposts, and you've followed this one perfectly.

All we have is our feelings. It doesn't matter what else we have. We can feel good with nothing, or feel bad with riches. Which would you prefer? You'd prefer to feel good, right?

If someone makes you feel 'too sensitive', what they're getting at is that you're too sensitive for them, and that their preference is more important to them than your feelings.

Can I just ask, is this the only time in the 2.5 years that he has done this?

"It's not my fault you're so sexy"

This is textbook coercion and victim blaming.

You told him how you felt and he gave you platitudes but something in you knew it wasn't genuine. That shows great insight, instinct and awareness. Well done for acting on that. Truly.

.... but it is his fault he has the impulse control of a randy dog.