Relationship with love but no sexual attraction?

[Strangelove89]

Can this ever work? Is sexual attraction always needed?

I tried it once. Didn't realise how important sex is to me until then. Personally I need that intimacy & feeling of closeness. Each to their own though. Might work for some people.

Sex is nice. And I’ve had some passionate encounters in my life. But I wonder how important it is in a long term relationship or marriage.

Suppose you’ve met your dream partner in every way but he’s unable to have sex. Would that be a deal breaker for most women?

It should be a deal breaker.

Without passion then it's a friend.
Why would you not just go for friendship?

If they're not the right person for you 100% then they aren't the right person for you full stop.

Well if he actually can't have sex I think that's different but if it's a case of zero passion/sexual feeling, then I'd run.

I think as long as you are both happy and open about the relationship then it could work. Many asexual people want the love and life sharing of a relationship without the sexual attraction.

Suppose you’ve met your dream partner in every way but he’s unable to have sex. Would that be a deal breaker for most women?

I can only speak for me. For me, complete and total deal-breaker. Somebody can't possibly be my dream partner if I can't have a sex life with them.

For an asexual person or pwrson with a very low drive or interest in sex it might be fine.

If you decide to give it a go OP, make sure you give it a good couple of years before deciding to marry or cohabit.

The only thing matters here is how you (and him) feel about it.

Sure, we all could give you personal views on the matter, but would it be very helpfull.

Personally for me, yeah, i wouldn’t mind at all.
But i’m asexual, i never feel sexual attraction.
But if i would meet someone i feel romantic attraction (and they for me) then that would be a dream come true.

I suppose it can work for some people if they don’t find sex too important. But this isn’t some people it’s you! Do you really think you could be happy with zero sex life?

Also is this person aware you feel like this? When you say unable do you mean they are physically incapable of sex for some reason? And do you mean the PIV part or ALL sexual intimacy?

It's absolutely fine if you are asexual.

Soul destroying if you are not.

You don't even need a high libido to find it difficult. People who would be perfectly happy and enjoy sex once a month may still find it horrendous to live a completely celibate life.

There are some posters on here who are in long term celibate marriages, not by choice. It's heartbreaking. Some have had lovers. Some just silently crumble.

There's no answer to this. It's like 'How important is going to the pub together?' Some relationships thrive on it, some can happily go without.

Why does it matter to you what everybody else would like?

my dream partner would involve quite a lot of sexual chemistry and attraction, so no, I wouldnt choose a sexless relationship as my monogamous life partnership. maybe id feel differently if I was really elderly, but imo thats a lot to give up