Lockdown Marriage Breakdown

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Has anyone else's marriage suffered because of spending too much time with their spouse/partner due to lockdown?

Mine has. Just wondered if anyone has managed to change their relationship to make it work

I cant speak to that directly but I was fortunate that my Employer gave us the option of going to work if we chose to,and I steadily continued and continue to do so. I need my routine and I need to get out of the house. But i heared through the grapevine that two of my male colleagues marriages hit the skids because their wives insisted they stay home and the constant being perched on one turned out to be a disaster. I know one colleague would literally spend an hour whenever he did come in telling us all how happy he was to be back in the office, I kept thinking..why are you staying home then??

But i heared through the grapevine that two of my male colleagues marriages hit the skids because their wives insisted they stay home and the constant being perched on one turned out to be a disaster.
Was that in order to help manage childcare issues with wives who were also working?

@JulesCobb I think so too! We are a big team so I dont know those two intimately but I know they are married and I know one of their wives works too.

We had a few problems early on. Probably around May 2020 time. Maybe June.

But we resolved it by making sure when things were open we did plenty together. We also worked in separate areas of the house and didn't really interact all that much during the day.

He was made redundant in early March 2020, so there was added stress of that. We decided he would stay home while the kids were off to help home school so I could work.

We got back on track by realising that this wasn't forever, we just needed to get through it and where possible have time apart.

It was also important I got time to work, though there was no expectation of people being quiet or not using common areas. But also, he needed time without the kids. After schooling them all day.

He is back at work now, but wfh most days. And we really enjoy it. I am hybrid on a permanent basis. But mainly at home. The days we can have lunch together or a morning coffee, is lovely.

I have to stress though, in our situation. No one was at fault. It was just a difficult situation and we forgot to act like a team for a short while.

It really does, depend on exactly what caused the issues and how long it's been going on.

Mine has and I don't believe it's repairable, I was wfh he went out each day, I was holding down a full time job home schooling and he'd expect dinner on the table when he walked in because I was at home,

I have changed roles to one outside the house and now he has issues with me because he has to do childcare pick ups,

we are stale mate not a lot of communication, I say how I feel am told I'm wrong he talks and I listen and if I don't agree I do so in a controlled way but if I don't agree then he will go on and on and on until I lose my temper,

Sex is no more affection no more, basically mates that share the bills