How do I tell DH that my sense of humour isnt the same anymore?

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This is awkward to explain but I'll try my best. Me and DH met when we were 17 and we were both very silly, always childish and used to do daft things and laugh at peoples reactions etc.

Anyway we're now 27 and he's the same but I can't be bothered anymore and sometimes it embarrasses me. For example we bought a kitten for DD (2) so needed a name. DH wanted to call it "satan" just to see the looks on the vets faces. I gave a half hearted chuckle but said no, we should call it something nice. Anyway he said "shit-face" and got a bit annoyed and said I'd think of something later. Anyway he filled the registration form in for the vets without me and put the cats name down as "shitface". I didn't know and phoned the vets today to make an apointment and they said it wasn't registered with them. I told them DH had given the form back on Friday and she started being really off with me before telling me that they had disregarded it as they assumed it was a joke. I got annoyed and asked what she was on about and she said the cats name was innapropriate and we were welcome to register the cat under another name.

I text DH at work and told him he had to phone the vet and apologise and he replied saying I used to be able to have a laugh and now I'm boring and moangy.

I'm worried that this is the beginning of cracks starting to appear which I know might seem like an over-reaction but he's right, we never do seem to laugh together anymore. I have more fun with my friends.

Seriously, he put the cat's name down as "shitface"?

I would insist he phoned the vets to apologise.

you have grown up & he hasn't that's the truth of the matter.

Is this for real

yeah. He probably thinks its hilarious and I might have done when I was 17 but I can't be doing with it now, its beyond embarrassing. Even if he does apologise however I dont think I can face taking it there now which is a shame as they have been our vets for 5 years.

Make him an appointment for the doctor to have his prostate checked.

And put his name down as "Twatface" - because he is being!

hunker that made me pmsl (almost literally)

hunker

what was he thinking?

I would have a chat with him tbh...ask if he was happy for his DD to be calling the cat such a horrid name?

lol hunker

he seriously put the name down as shitface! good lord don't ever let him registar a birth on his own will you!

LOL that's not a bad idea actually, although knowing him he'd laugh too.

Its the same with everything though, answering the phone for instance he will say something like "hello, this is pain and pain funeral directors, how may I help you?" which can be funny if its my mum calling or something but last time it was my university tutor and she didn't find it funny at all.

I don't mind having a laugh but as I've grown up I've realised there is a time and a place for it, DH seems to be struggling to remember this.

He's taught DD to say bog instead of toilet and when the nursery mentioned it he burst out laughing and the nursery nurse just gave us a "look" but I don't want to get a bad rep with the nursery as it is connected to our chosen primary school.

He sounds like an idiot.

def' have a chat

a long one by the sounds of it

Another thing was that he is a member of a writing club and at the weekend he wrote a short story and asked me to read it before he submitted it for everyone else to read.

It started off as a really serious, atmospheric story about a man in agony and a desperate need to reach his home. I was really engrossed to find out why he needed to get home and thought it was excellent. Anyway, I reached the end and it turned out the character just had diarrhea and needed to get home before he pooed himself.

I said it was great apart from the ending which was a bit stupid and advised him not to post it for the others as they'd probably get annoyed and think he was an idiot.

Anyway, he ignored me, posted it and it was actually really well receieved, they loved it and thought it was hilarious so I felt guilty putting him down.

So I'm stuck between wondering if it is just me that is turning into a misery.

He is just turning into one of those goofy lovable monty python types.......you may need to come to terms with it.

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timmy mallett

Registering the cat with that name at the vet - bloody hell. Can you imagine what they thought of you all?

There's no problem with being daft, it can be fun, like you say. The problem is that as an adult, you must understand when it is and is not appropriate to let your silly side out.

Sounds like this is what your dh struggles with. He must learn that it's ok to be daft, but there are times to be serious too.

TBH i think this is a tough one. wouldn't know what the answer is here.

i know that i used to love xh's ability to say stuff i never would, i loved the taboo-breaking element of it, but as i got older i found that i didn't want to break the taboos of my family any more, i just wanted to be part of it. i guess i used him to rebel through, but ultimately i found myself po-faced when he was laughing at some remark he'd made which I thought was cruel or tacky.

also now i do think about whether my actions will reflect on what people think of ds, or how they think of him. that's a bit rubbish too i suppose.

i don't think either of you is being unreasonable tbh, i have to say i did laugh at all the things here, but would cringe at having to deal with them in RL.

i do think pain and pain funeral directors is funny, maybe your tutor was being slightly humourless in that case!

this is not very helpful. hope you find a way through this.

he sounds like my Dad and my Dad, as much as I love him, can be such a twat. Exactly like this, just makes stupid jokes all the time that we might find funny if we were still 5. And answers the phone with little lines like that. It is so cringy. I constantly struggle to accept that he is a 16 year old boy trapped in a much older body. He does have a sense of when it's appropriate though and registering the cat as 'shitface' at the vets (ok it IS make me smile as I type it but only because I can't believe he actually DID it!) well, it just isn't, is it?

re. the story, you've probably just become hyper sensitive that other people are going to think he's a twat so it colours your view of other things he does that are funny and place/company appropriate.. but I think you know you aren't really old and boring. You just aren't 17 anymore and really, who wants to be??!

sorry but lol at the shitface cat thing

it is very inappropriate but can you imagine the receptionist's face?

he sounds like the office clown character in The Fast Show

There is a big and growing maturity gap between you.

I think you need to get some counselling because if your DH doesn't start to grow up soon, your relationship will be in serious jeopardy.

colin hunt

pmsl

lol