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Breakdown of relationship after miscarriage

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MeganChar1 · 04/08/2021 08:58

A bit of background, I’ve been with my partner 3 years and we have only very recently in May moved into a house we have bought together. Unfortunately we had a miscarriage in January and we are currently most likely going through another one (blighted ovum). Things have been tense since we found out about the most recent pregnancy as it wasn’t planned (no judgement please). The other night he sat me down and said he doesn’t think we are working anymore and he has felt unhappy for a while. Obviously I am absolutely heartbroken. Part of me really wants to work things out and I think we can however part of me wants to walk away. I’m 28 which I know isn’t old but I’m terrified of the possibility of having to start again because I really did feel we had a future, part of me still thinks we could. I really want children, he does want them but not yet, and I think given what’s happened now I don’t think either of us are in any rush to get pregnant again. We also have a dog together and I feel like we have built a life together. He is 27 so just over a year younger than me. I do love him and want to work things out but I’m also terrified of being on my own again if things don’t work out. Before meeting him I was single for 4 years and the dating world was full of losers, and I really do not want to go through another 4 years or so of that. We have since talked further and he says he just needs time to think about things as I’ve said I want to work things out and I think we can, and we have been very amicable, and he has been there supporting me at scans etc, and part of me just thinks he has freaked out a bit with this last pregnancy. I really do not know what to do at the moment my head is a mess.

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Babyghirl · 04/08/2021 11:53

@Meganchar1
Sorry you r going through this I have had 4 miscarriages and 1 cp, hope yous work things out you need support right now not the thought of him walking away on you. You will be for ever walking on eggshells I case he drops this bombshell again but hopefully not, miscarriages can be tough but you will get there as tough as it will be 💚

Catlover1970 · 04/08/2021 22:28

I think you need to accept that he wants to move on and isn’t happy. Sorry this is happening it maybe you feel the Same deep down but are settling as you were single for 4 years and don’t want to be alone

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