Hi so I’ve been seeing this guy on and off for a while, he told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship so I carried on dating other men. I really enjoyed his company so while I should of cut it off, I didn’t. Anyway he told me he was falling for me but he’s not in the right space for a relationship, after much thought I realised I have a lot of trust issues that need working on before I get into a relationship so I suppose I’m not ready either.
I told him this, he asked me how I felt about him. He said we can just work at this stage, we’re committed to each other, we spend time together like a relationship. But I am in therapy for my issues and I know he’s also working on his.
Am I just being a commitment phobe by agreeing to this? Or is this a silly arrangement? I don’t know why I’m worried I’m happy with how it is and being boyfriend and girlfriend makes me feel a bit panicky because I don’t want to mess it up