Freaking out!!

[Clutterbug13]

Had a few dates with a gorgeous man recently and we’ve been getting in great. Huge physical attraction and a lot in common.
I’ve never been blessed with a lot of body confidence as I have a lot of stretch marks on my body from puberty then subsequent weight loss and gain over the years. I’m slightly overweight now by a few pounds and carry weight around my tummy which I’m self conscious of.
Anyway, I digress. We got together at the weekend and things got a bit hot and heavy. We tried to have sex but he couldn’t, ahem, maintain.
We tried a few times to no avail. He left and contact has been minimal since with me reaching out to him. I would like to see him again and try again and I’ve been understanding and gentle but now I’m freaking out that it’s because of me he couldn’t perform and my body issues and anxieties are off the scale.

Has anyone else had a similar experience?
Any advice welcome x

It's probably nothing to do with you and is his issue, which he's self conscious about now. He's probably embarrassed.

Men have their problems and hangups as well.

It’s not you! And I’d stop chasing him.

It’s not your fault, happens to most men at some time and is acutely embarrassing he might avoid you now to avoid another ‘failure’

It's highly unlikely to be anything to do with your looks/body. Most likely just nerves got to him, maybe he'd had too much to drink, or maybe he has ED. He's probably avoiding you because he's so utterly embarrassed about it. I don't think there's much you can actually say to him to make him feel better, but if the subject hasn't come up at all since, it might be worth dropping him a message to give some reassurance.

Thanks all. He’s been in touch. Extremely embarrassed and can’t face me just yet. I’ve reassured as much as I can. Somehow I can’t see this one progressing. Aaaarrgggh!!

@Clutterbug13

Thanks all. He’s been in touch. Extremely embarrassed and can’t face me just yet. I’ve reassured as much as I can. Somehow I can’t see this one progressing. Aaaarrgggh!!

Don't create a self fulfilling prophecy. I mean, that's probably what he's done, and look where it's got him!

Give it a bit of time. Don't chase him. He knows you're ok with what's happened, he knows you like him. Just wait. He may or not come to you, but it has to be that way round now, otherwise you'll set a precedent for being the one who does all the legwork in the relationship.

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Thank you and yes you’re right. I’m not going to contact him again. He knows where I am x