Is anyone elses partners/ohs/dh being an ar$e today?

[ConfusedFootieMum]

Just as the title says....

My oh is in a mood because i fell asleep for an hour tonight after he got back from work, had today off work and done nothing but clean and do some jobs for him! Im shattered now hes in a mood. Was in the bath nearly 2 hours despite knowing i wanted a nice bath as have to be up at half 5 tomorrow.

Just fed up of the moodiness its like loving with a 13 year old.

I called him out on it and "im looking for an argument" hes a twat in every way seriously this last 6 months have nearly broke me with his moodiness and general being a knob. Moaning at everything, hes never wrong and i can never be tired or ill...EVER!.

Sorry for the rant i just need to get it off my chest as fed up of his selfishness.

Has anyone elses partners also got one on them for a pathetic reason today...happy to start a competition of worlds most hard done to men (or at least in their eyes)

Mine has been alive today. Along with the rest of the human population. Who have seemingly all managed to piss me right off today.

I will admit I am hormonal.

@Hissysnake dont blame hormones it just means you are taking the shit like you usually put up with! Thats how i see it anyway!

You know you don't have to live like this OP? Are you in a financial position to leave?

OP, seriously - why are you staying in a relationship like this?

Mine picked me up after the dentist as we were meant to go an outing, which I tried to do, but felt very sick. I felt really ill and needed food, tucking up in bed, and tlc. He dropped me at my house with dcs and dogs and went home to chill as he had a day off

And I’m never ill!

Bloody men, @ConfusedFootieMum

Im here for now, i dont think i will be for much longer but you never know he may completely change back to how he used to be....then again pigs maybe flying. I need to sort out the practicalities before just upping and leaving we have a child together and need to make sure everything is sorted for them. I also ideally dont want to leave the house i would prefer him to go but he won't but its only bricks and mortar. I need to get myself and child in the best position possible to leave because at the moment it just isnt. I lost my job earlier in the year got a new one just waiting on my probation period to be over for the more stability.

In the meantime its giving me a great laugh at how hard done by this man thinks he is and the pathetic behaviour.

@WouldBeGood bit selfish of you being ill.....i joke its beyond belief sometimes!

If mine had a period it would finish him off....not before he told me it was worse than anyone id had before

Awful awful

Get rid asap
Get your plans in place xxxxxx

I guess I’m fortunate @ConfusedFootieMum in that I don’t live with him, no kids with him. But his total lack of interest in looking after me is quite shite.

Good luck with yours! Xxx

Oops, random kisses as I’ve been messaging dd 😳

Morning all,

I just wanted to say thank you for all your nice messages you have kept me going this week.

OH has still not spoken to me, ive been civil and said hello etc but nothing really back. I have told him that this cannot go on and i dont want him to come on holiday next week as i need some time to think. All he took from that was one word about my saying due to me ignoring him and he tried to argue it was me as well...it has shown me that he cares more about being right or the row than the relationship.

Sorry to offload just struggling and with holiday what do i tell our child why their dad isnt coming along? Cant exactly say coz hes an ar$e 😀

Tell your child he had stuff to do, and go without him. He will ruin it if he comes. When you come back go and see a lawyer and get rid!

Thank you @wewereliars i know i dont trust him not to ruin it, i am going in my car originally as a family in his but i do not trust him to not leave me there, hes never done it before but the man in front if me is not someone I know anymore so cant take any chances.

It maybe that work is the excuse and he needs to go into work next week. I need to speak to him tho to tell him the reasons i am telling our child so he can agree to the same thing.

Good luck honestly, don't overthink it, your child wont.

Morning
Well i didnt need to tell my child anything he already told them he isnt going as i dont want him to.
I did go mad, not shouting or screaming its not my style but I said its unfair to put our child in the middle of it, there was no expansion on mum doesn't want me to go either, so im looking like a bad person with them. Although tbh they seem ok but you never know whats lying under the surface.

Feeling not too good today the prospect of going on holiday alone is hitting me and feel like having a cry. I never thought i would be in this situation or feeling like this at all! Im not sure i can cope or do this.

OP it looks like he's decided that he wants/needs to play the 'good guy' to your DC.
You're going to have to tell your child the truth ie. because Mum and Dad have been arguing a lot lately, and it would ruin the holiday, you decided that it would be better for everyone if Dad didn't come.

It looks like he's going to 'play dirty' and always paint you as the 'baddie', so you're better telling the truth. Don't go down to his level.

You should probably tell your H that his behavior in the past, and in particular his selfish behavior in deliberately hurting your DC, has meant that you are going to be using the holiday to decide whether or not to call 'time' on your relationship. (But make sure you get copies of financial paperwork, any and all important documents like passports/birth certificates etc sorted first. Also, make sure you have a separate bank account into which your Child Benefit/wages etc are paid into and move 50% of any joint savings etc into it before going on holiday)

But make sure you get copies of financial paperwork, any and all important documents like passports/birth certificates etc sorted first. Also, make sure you have a separate bank account into which your Child Benefit/wages etc are paid into and move 50% of any joint savings etc into it before going on holiday)

YES to this ^ as this man is showing you he's not your friend and definitely willing to play dirty to get what he wants.

Make sure you take care if your financials (including changing passwords of your computer, email/cloud accounts and especially your bank accounts). Also you might find it useful to talk to a solicitor ASAP to find out what your position is so that you are properly prepared when you are ready to start the process of leaving this relationship.

Watch your back, OP. 🌹