Is he cheating?

[Snoop85]

In a nutshell, he disappeared again this weekend to his friends house because we had an argument. He ignored me most of the time and then finally came home at 12.30 in the morning. He has cheated in the past so I asked to look at his phone. He happily unlocked it and past it to me. Everything had been deleted from Friday night and over the weekend. No history on absolutely anything. He says he just didn’t use his phone all weekend. What am I meant to think?

Tough love - the MN speciality! Separating from someone you still love is hard but once you’ve ripped off the band aid you’re free to meet someone nicer. Give yourself a little while to be ok on your own first so you don’t get into another bad relationship.

If you need practical or emotional support to leave, the most straight-talking and sometimes blunt Mumsnetters have been known to soften and be super lovely!!

Thank you. That’s lovely

@Snoop85

As pathetic as it may seem, I’m quite scared of being alone

Get rid of him and spend some time working on this. Alone can be great. A position of independence and power and self fulfilment. Learn how to be happy alone and your whole perspective on life will change for the better.