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Please help me fall asleep

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93sdb · 01/08/2021 23:55

Me and my partner had a big argument and I've told him I don't want to be with him. I won't go into the ins and outs. I don't want to lose him but he needs to change his behaviour and so do I this is happening more and more. I don't know whats for the best at the moment but I know if I message him or try make it up to him its basically me saying that I was completely in the wrong but it was both of us and ill end up apologising as usual. Were renovating a house together and we have invested so much into that and each other.

The stupidest thing now would be to message him but I can't eat or sleep or think straight. I have to be up in 6 hours and its just playing with my head he should be sleeping next to me cuddled up not at his parents but it was a horrible argument and a lot of nasty things were said. I NEED some time to think about whether this is right or not Please help me turn off.

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93sdb · 01/08/2021 23:58

I regret breaking up with him badly but he said some nasty stuff and I just exploded

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StarlingsDarlings · 02/08/2021 00:04

It sounds like quite a volatile relationship. Sleeping alone while you both cool off was a good idea. Everything seems worse at night but you may feel some clarity in the morning. Try not to get bogged down in the sunken costs fallacy r.e. the house.

TheSmallAssassin · 02/08/2021 00:07

Have you got the Headspace app or something similar? That has things to listen to to help you think of something else and sleep. It's helped me in the past.

93sdb · 02/08/2021 00:36

Im currently listening to murder mystery on YouTube. I called my friend who calmed me down after I've written lots of texts I cannot send because I don't know which or what is right. I know I need to leave it but the anxiety is keeping me buzzed. I'm angry and devestated and overwhelmed all at once.

My friend was good and my body is feeling very heavy. Its just my head. I miss him terribly already despite what he said. Just need a clear mind for a little while.

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