I feel so disposable

[sunflower54322]

Hi,
I'm feeling lost and broken.

I suppose I'm dumb and naive I was with my excuse husband for 17 years and we spilt. Was signed for a while and met this guy and he swept me off my feet.

(Too good to be true)

It went from all to nothing. Then I would back off and he would pull me back.

He's ended it and got back with his ex and I'm truly broken.
I got with my hubby when I was 16 so hadn't any experience of dating.
I wasn't looking this guy chased and chased me.
I'm not even sure if any thing he told me was true.
He told me he loved me he told me he never felt like this about any one. He told me I was his soul mate.

I know u will say oldest trick in the book.

I'm currently having therapy and some EMDR I'm hoping life improves.

I'm so broken when I asked him why he said all that stuff he said it's how he felt at the time. 

Soul mate is for life.

I know I sound dumb but even tho I'm 34 this is all new

I've feel so disposable and stupid

Single for a while I meant

Nothing at all like the pain of heartbreak.
We’ve all been there.
It really really hurts.
I’m sorry you’re hurting.
Block him and get your social diary full!

I also meant to add that he's adamant on being friends. He said we have such a bond we can't fall out.

It's too painful.

I'm not sure what his game is.

His game is that he is full of pretty words. But no action.

Always follow what they DO, not what they say. That's the number 1 rule for understanding men.

Friends, pmsl. Men aren't interested in friends. They have two ladders: fuckable and not fuckable. If you're on the latter ladder you're worth keeping on a string. If you're on the first, they'll disappear.
They're simple creatures really.

Opps, I got that the wrong way round there (need an edit button). If you're fuckable then you're worth keeping on a string. Obviously.

Yeah! He’s keeping you in reserve just incase things don’t work out with his ex. Block him across the board.

I know it’s difficult but this person has just love bombed you and you need to step back and maybe work on your self and your self esteem. Maybe even look at doing the Freedom Programme.

I've just had a look at that freedom programme it says it's for domestic abuse?

You can't keep being friends with him. What a plonker. How he felt at the time?! There are men around who care about women more than to say exactly what's in their head until they can stand over it with some integrity.

Sorry OP, he has been very unkind to you. He probably enjoyed the reaction of saying those things to you, as PP say, actions speak louder than words. I agree he's keeping you as an option, but as he has a new gf you don't want to be kept as an option...

Your heart broken and it’s normal to be sad. You can not be friends with this man whilst your vulnerable.

Please block him and delete him from your life. He will use you when he wants if you remain friends. Actions always speak louder than words.

Be kind to yourself, it will take time to heal, see if you have friends and family you can speech to in real life and work on yourself with positive activities

Survivors forum. Women's Aid.

We have all been there and met a guy like this OP, I feel for you.

But dont be friends with him. He just wants to keep you on the hook. I've been there, thought I was "cool" and "laid back" enough to be his friend. I wasnt. It hurt when he told me about other dates, and it hurt when we hooked up at various points and he still didnt want to be with me. He didnt actually want to be my friend, he just wanted 1) to have me as a fall back option and 2) to stop me moving on. It was only a long time later that i thought "friends dont treat friends like that"