Settle this debate for me

[MamaOl93]

Is bowling a date, yes or no?

Anythings a date if both parties agree it is

I wouldn’t be impressed
I’m not 13

Yes

It depends if you might have a romantic connection with the person asking.

Why not? I’m not a snob and I enjoy activities. So for me it’s a yes, what makes it count as a date I guess is the intention of both parties .

If it’s something you both want to do , or if you don’t care what you do as long as it involves spending time with the other person or it’s an icebreaker, yeah of course it is 🤷🏻‍♀️

Definitely! I think an activity is such a nice date idea. Particularly first date as it breaks the ice.

I think so, he's probably good at bowling and wants to show off

I think it's ok as a date idea! I'm going next weekend for a 2nd Date and as we are both competitive we said we may as well do something fun then probably have a couple of games of pool afterwards.
Suppose if either one of us hated bowling we wouldn't be going.

Yes it is if it's a romantic context - eg. meeting someone from OLD, meeting up with someone you've been flirting with in real life - whatever.

What, as in someone has asked you out and you’re not sure if it’s a date?

Or… you’re questioning someone who would propose bowling as a date?

If the latter… it’s a good choice. Easy ways out if there are awkward silences (as each person takes a turn)

Harder to know the answer to the former, though…

Ten Pin Bowling is a fun activity that keeps things light so I’d consider a date but I would probably want to continue the date and go for a meal or a drink afterwards if things were going well:

Thanks for all your answers! I agree I think it’s a date thing to do aswell - however he does not. This is a guy who I’m friends with, but we started out as dating but he wanted to remain friends. He’s said let’s go bowling and my first thought was it’s a date thing to do, but he disagrees 😂

I wouldn't want to be taken bowling on a date.
I would however go bowling with a boyfriend. I think there's a difference!!

I think you could do it with friends or as a date? Any activity could cover both surely!

It's only a date if you both want it to be. You can't unilaterally decide it is!

If he's told you he just wants friendship, then it's not a date.

So you've agreed not to date, he's suggested doing an activity and you've decided it's a date?

No. He's explicitly told you he doesn't want to date you.

It should be two friends doing something together but if you can't manage that maybe you should cancel.

No no, I don’t think it’s a date, we are just friends, the debate is simply me asking because I said to him I thought bowling was a date idea but we’re just friends now, and he disagreed lol. That’s all :)

It's a whatever thing - it's like going out for a drink - could be with coworkers, friends, a cousin, a spouse, or an OLD person.

He's framed it as NOT a date, so it's NOT a date.

It can be both. I've been bowling with "just friends" and bowling as a date.

It can be both. I've been bowling with "just friends" and bowling as a date.

I agree.
I’ve been bowling on dates and with just friends who are male. I’ve also been to the zoo, cinema etc with both too.

I wouldn't enjoy bowling so if it was a date it would start off on the wrong foot for me.

Yep. I went on a bowling date yesterday

Bowling is something you do with your mates. Your boy/girl friend might be there but it’s definitely not a romantic thing to do. It’s way below cinema or theatre for example. It’s even below walk really. It’s an activity where people don’t have to really talk to each other that much.