Can a relationship survive without trust?

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Hi guys

Just a question can relationship survive if u don't trust ur partner you have been together for 8 yrs but u don't trust him due to ur past experience & him talking to girls & having more girls as friends?

Would u marry or you would not till trust is established?

In long term relationships I personally believe that trust is like a piece of glass once it is broken, you can glue it back together but it will always remain shattered. The choice is yours, if YOU choose to marry your partner then it is you that has to draw a line in the sand and leave the past in the past and whole heartedly accept his behaviour (having female friends and more in the future) or end the relationship and for your own mental health move forward with your life.
How long do you intend on waiting to establish trust? 10yrs, 15yrs maybe 20yrs?

A relationship without trust will never end well

You can look at it in 2 ways
Get to know someone and build trust depending on their actions
Or
Trust someone until they give you reason not to
For me as soon as trust is broken I am done
I don't see anyway back and if he has already showed you the person he is why even consider marrying him ?

No way

Well it depends what the bigger situation is

Do you have kids together?

If you do, I would absolutely marry him because if he is untrustworthy and likely to ruin the relationship soon, you’re going to do better in the split if you’re married

If you don’t have any kids, I wouldn’t waste my time marrying someone who might cheat

Why would you want to continue any relationship without trust?

What does "talking to girls" mean?

Idle chit chat with female colleagues, relatives, friends? Chatting up women in bars or online? Talking to little girls in playgrounds?

There's nothing wrong with someone having female friends.

If you're in a dysfunctional relationship, getting married isn't going to magically fix everything.

You haven't actually made clear whether he has ever done anything wrong himself or If you just have personal issues because of past experiences with a different person.

If there is no trust there is no relationship.

You dont mention whether hes actually broken your trust by being caught outin lies or beingcaught out. If him just talking or having female friends upsets you and you dont trust him now, a marriage certificate won't magically instill trust in your relationship. Dont paper over cracks in your relationship or your anxiety with a certificate and dont marry him if you dont trust him.

If you can’t trust him then you shouldn’t be with him

If you don't trust him, you'd be daft to marry him.

I think the question you should ask yourself is why would you want to stay in a relationship with someone you don't trust? Don't you deserve better than that?

Relationships are supposed to be happy and bring out the joy, strength and positivity in you. If they instead make you uneasy, worried and frayed...then they aren't a healthy relationship and this person is not right for you.

No I don't think so. I do wonder if this is specific to to your partner or is is part of a pattern in your relationships? I think trust also extends to trusting someone with your emotional well-being too.

Having female friends and talking to friends isn't necessarily reasons not to trust someone. It can be hard to trust people if you have had bad experiences but it's important to discern if your feelings of distrust are based on the here and now.

Nope.

No. Run for the hills........

A relationship cannot survive lack of trust because once the trust is gone, it's already dead.

Marriage is a promise. If you don't trust a person to keep their promises, marriage is worthless.

Short answer - it could 'survive' in the sense that you could continue to live together / project to the outside world as a partnership / still be a couple in name etc. But that isn't the same as a healthy relationship where both partners are happy - and a solid, healthy relationship doesn't exist without trust.

That said, some context might help. From your op it isn't clear if your OH has done something to mean you can't trust him, or if you find it hard to trust people full stop. One of the reasons you gave is 'past experience' - do you mean he's done something in the past to make you not trust him, or that someone else has let you down before you were with him|? You mention 'having girls as friends' - it is perflectly fine for a man to have women friends and it would be controlling of you to say otherwise.

You say he has 'talked to girls' - and if that means chatting up other women / doing stuff behind your back with other women / seeking out other relationships or flings - then I wouldn't trust him - and why would you want to be in a relationship with someone who does that??

If you just don't like him talking to other women and he's never been unfaithful or lied to you, then you are being unreasonable to expect him not to do that.