Looking for a book tip re father/son relationship

[ravenmum]

Hi all, people often recommend books here but I'm not sure what book might be useful in this situation.

Looking for something for my 21yo son, who lives with his dad when not at uni (now more due to Covid). His dad, my ex, seems to be single currently and have time on his hands to be particularly annoying - manipulating ds into doing stuff he doesn't really want to, trying to control how he spends his money or undermining ds's plans; not respecting the fact that ds is a very sensible adult now. It runs in the family: his dad still treats ex like a child, at 52.

The dc and I share books sometimes and I was thinking I might get a book on how to get on with your parents, or deal with manipulative people, mention that I'd read it to the dc and lend it to them. (Dd is a little older and very different character so less affected I think.)

Any book tips for me?

Bumping this back up again to see if there are any bookworms in today :)

I’d tread carefully, they both might accuse you of undermining their relationship

Yes, I normally try to keep out, as he is an adult, and I don't want to be a pushy parent myself. Plus I am probably biased as obviously not best pals with my ex! Just concerned now as ds told me he'd received an amazon delivery at home, and his dad phoned him asking what he'd been spending his money on, then said he'd check ds's bank account (which he persuaded ds to give him access to on a gap year) and ended up opening the parcel to see what it was.

You're right though, it is probably too obvious.

It’s not ideal behaviour but it’s your son’s battle