Im so tired, I don't want to make this long.
A few years before I met him, he was at the lowest of the low when gambling. When he was single. Every penny of his wage went in the bookies. He got help and recovered.
He's always had football bets. Never stopped those and they were never an issue £5 on a weekend.
Now it's turned into £20 a day on roulette.
Here's my issue.
We are fine for money. Bills get paid, food on the table etc.
But I've had enough. £20 plus the lottery he puts on equals to £8000 a year! Just wasted.
He has the odd win but never anything that would amount to £8000.
Every day he tells me he will stop yet he can't. That night he will still come straight in from work and the first thing he will do is have £20. Even though he promised that morning he wouldn't. That's an issue right? Doesn't matter that we have money and thousands saved (which is in my name)
We've been arguing lately and I told him I had well
and truly had enough. The next morning he told me he had deleted the app and that was that.
That was 4 days ago. Tonight he's re installed it and had £10 instead of £20. He managed 4 days off it however he did have a nasty accident at work yesterday and spent all night in hospital. I didn't have the energy to say anything or tell him not too.
What would you do in this situation?
I'm not daft with money. There is money there for me to treat myself every now and then.
I also don't work so I don't feel like I can say anything as I'm a carer for my son so only bring in a very minimal wage.
But £8000 a year to just throw away......just no.
I'm petrified he will relapse properly.
I've asked him to go to counselling but he won't as he isn't rock bottom according to himself. I'm well aware that you can't force anyone to get help for addiction and they have to do it themselves.
Advice please x