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Friendship problems

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Kneller92 · 30/07/2021 23:57

Hi everyone,
I'm after some advice/perspective. I'm in my late 20s and expecting my first child very soon. My best friend of nearly 20 years is acting really strangely and I just don't get it. She is very blow hot blow cold one minute texting me a lot, wanting to meet up, the next seeming quite snippy, one word answers to texts etc. I ask her of everything is ok and she usually just says she is busy with work which obviously I understand. She has started seeing a lot more of another friend and going out with her even when she has told me she is too busy for us to meet up or has ignored my messages. I have also seen her tagging this other friend in things on social media referring to her as her best friend which I'll admit did sting a little bit.
I wondered if it might be to do with me having a baby at first but this other friend has 2 children, one of which is still very young so I can't see why it would be that. I have tried to speak to her to see if there is an issue but she is very closed off and always seems fine when we eventually meet face to face.
Has anyone had experience of this when having a baby or can shed some light as to what might be going on here? I just feel confused and a bit stuck to be honest. I'm not the type of person who has lots of friends so I really value the ones I do have but it feels like we are drifting apart for some reason.

Thanks for reading 😊

OP posts:
Addicted2LoveIsland · 01/08/2021 10:17

Sometimes people drift apart. I would just concentrate on the baby for now. You have asked her and done all you can. I know it's easier said than done but just park it for now. You'll meet other friends when the baby comes.
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Chickoletta · 01/08/2021 10:21

Could she have experienced a miscarriage recently? Being around pregnant ladies in these circumstances can be hard.

It could be that the friendship has just run it’s course from her perspective. I know this can be very hurtful but try not to push, just see what happens and develop other friendships. People often find that they make a whole new friendship group when they have a baby.

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