Actions speak louder than words in relationships?

[NinaBeee]

So I've had a thought
Men that constantly remind you they love you and won't hurt you - vs - men that don't constantly remind you

Which do you prefer?

I feel that most of the time, the men that need to remind you, end up hurting you?

What do you ladies think? From experience?

Actions definitely speak louder than words.

This is a very interesting subject for me. I've been with my DH for 11 years. He's the most caring and loving man and over the years he's been there for me through thick and thin. He's been getting up at nights with babies, he is a hand on father, he helps around the house (I'm a SAHM right now), he's a very hard worker but very generous financially, he just has my back. He also brings me flowers just because or does other small romantic gestures.

However, I can count on my fingers how many times I've heard an 'I love you' from him. Once when he proposed, a couple of times during sex perhaps, and a few times he wrote it in cards. That's in 11 years!

He made it clear from the very beginning he's not big on words. He said he values actions in relationships much more and he certainly isn't the one who would say it often or daily. According to him when said too often they lose their meaning and how he's seen so many men going 'love you babe' on the phone before hanging up and going off to meet another woman.

Now while I understand his reasons I still do find it quite sad at times. At the same time I just know he loves me and this security in his feelings is precious to me. I do hope he'll be saying it more often to me in time... Actually I don't need it multiple times a day either, just a bit more often would be nice. Anyway that's just him and I have chosen to accept it..

My partner tells me he loves me often. If he reminded me he wouldn’t hurt me, I’d find that very odd.

I do hope he'll be saying it more often to me in time..

After 11 years, I don't rate your chances. But it sounds like a loving relationship.

Men that constantly remind you they love you and won't hurt you - vs - men that don't constantly remind you
It's like "the lady doth protest too much".

I'm not saying words aren't important, but they need to match up with actions.