unusual phone location

[mallorcanundoin]

I have noticed that a few weeks ago DH's phone logged a significant location on a street I'd never heard of for four hours starting in the early hours of one day. Only one visit.
He always turns his phone off at night.
I think I have now identified where this location is on google maps.
If you were me, would you go to this location and have a look-see?

For whatever reason, OP has her reasons for suspicion. They aren’t often wrong in my experience. It’s entirely feasible for someone to take an early morning ‘dog walk’ and actually be meeting an affair partner.
It sounds like her H has been making her feel strange and paranoid for a while, so it really doesn’t help if a few MNers are doing the same.

What else has happened in the early morning OP that has made you suspicious?

I am really against people checking their partners location!
My friends boyfriend does this and I hate it as she has genuinely been where she’s told him she is but her phone is just not accurate!

If I was planning to cheat I would leave my phone in an area where I said I would be.
If you have suspicions by all means call him out on it but I definitely wouldn’t use the tracking.

@Bellyups

For whatever reason, OP has her reasons for suspicion. They aren’t often wrong in my experience. It’s entirely feasible for someone to take an early morning ‘dog walk’ and actually be meeting an affair partner. It sounds like her H has been making her feel strange and paranoid for a while, so it really doesn’t help if a few MNers are doing the same.

Thank you for that.

An example. I woke up one morning at 7, thought I heard the dog whimpering, got up assuming he was downstairs with the dog. Then I thought I heard the door close. I went downstairs and they weren't there so assumed they had gone for a walk. The walk normally takes between 40 mins and an hour unless it's raining then it's a round-the-block 15 minute walk. It wasn't raining.

15 minutes later they return. He gave some details about the walk - the long walk - dog was muddy, like he had been laying down.

Later in the day, I queried why he'd been gone only a short time that morning. He said he'd been gone 45 minutes. He thought he'd left at 7 and arrived back at 7:45am. When I told him the time he had actually returned - 07:15 - he couldn't explain it, other than to say he must have left before 7, although he was convinced he had left at 7.

This is just one example. I know I'm not paranoid, but something is going on, I just can't work it out yet.

OP you can’t question him for taking the dog out for 15mins. Maybe he just couldn’t be bothered to do the full 45mins and it was just a quick one.
I now think you are paranoid and sound quite hard work.

He’s probably gaslighting you so yes look and see.

Instincts are rarely wrong.

Why are you tracking your husband? Are you his full-time carer?

If you’ve got nothing better to do go and visit the location. You could take a few photos and speak to the locals. Make an afternoon of it if the weather is nice.

@toocold54

OP you can’t question him for taking the dog out for 15mins. Maybe he just couldn’t be bothered to do the full 45mins and it was just a quick one. I now think you are paranoid and sound quite hard work.

He and I don't have the sort of relationship where one of us would lie about a short dog walk. We're both completely ok if the other one is too tired, couldn't be bothered, forgotten the poo-bags, etc. He would have zero reason to pretend to me that he'd walked the dog longer than he had. I'm not a nag!

He gave me details about the walk, so he's either the best pathological liar in the world, or he entered some sort of time glitch, or he has a massive reason to lie to me.

Get a ring doorbell and you can see comings and goings. (I don’t have one but I believe it can record activity?). If he has strong objections then you will wonder why? What has he got to hide?

If he was sneaking out of bed at 4am etc I would be more inclined to think visiting a prostitute than an affair partner.

Weird behaviour but we know that there are people that do weird things and sometimes they are someone’s partner.

@DoormatBob

So you think your DH gets into bed at night, waits until you go to sleep, then heads out for 4 hours with his mistress before returning home and slipping back into bed before you wake?

That's crazy even by MN standards!

I know of someone married to a female but was sneaking out and meeting men at a local park. So it does happen!

Op I feel for you! It could be drugs, it could be meeting some one. I am not sure what you'll gain from going past the house though. Although I understand the need to find out.

If its a regular day could you set an alarm (after you know hes gone) and follow him?x

He gave me details about the walk, so he's either the best pathological liar in the world, or he entered some sort of time glitch, or he has a massive reason to lie to me.

So your issue is that he said he walked the dog for 45mins but it was actually 15mins.
Why do you think he would lie?
He could have thought he’d been longer than he had or you could have checked the time wrong which if you were in bed you were probably half asleep and it’s easy to do.

Honestly give him a break else you’re going to make him and yourself ill.
If he takes the dog for a 5 hour walk and says he’s only been 15mins then question him but what do you seriously think he is getting up to in 15mins.

We know his phone located somewhere early hours when his phone is usually switched off. Could there be another phone using his apple ID?

OP is sure of the timing of the short walk, but he states he did a long walk. Could something have spooked him to make him return early? Something that he couldn't tell you? Did he take his phone with him?

A hypothesis which could fit both examples could be someone stalking him. An ex affair partner? It would also explain the 'sometimes alien sometimes normal' description. As in, things may go quiet so he's happy, then he gets contacted and starts to worry?

This all seems slightly bizarre as theres little information to go on.

But OP, you are obviously picking up on things which are just not quite right. On their own, perhaps nothing but add all the little things together and you get a bigger picture.

In answer to your initial question - yes I'd go to the location and take a look. It might give you some clues (if it is drugs, there may be evidence of that or you could ask locals if that is a possibility).
You obviously suspect something, so yes, go with some sleuthing.
Could be innocent, but I would suspect anyone going out at 3am for 4 hours and not telling their wife is not going to be upto much good.

Unless he has a secret second job as a milkman or something.

@DoormatBob

So you think your DH gets into bed at night, waits until you go to sleep, then heads out for 4 hours with his mistress before returning home and slipping back into bed before you wake?

That's crazy even by MN standards!

I would have agreed with you only for the fact I used to know someone who did exactly this. He was married to a woman but gay, and would meet men from grindr at all hours of the day and night, he would wait until his wife was asleep then go out at 3/4am, if she woke up he always had an excuse (he worked in a hospital in a&e and would sometimes tell wife there was an emergency in to work etc)

He would go out for hours, have his fun, then went home, before going home he would go to the 24 hour tesco and pick something up so if she was awake when he got back he would hand over what he had bought and tell her he had been to tesco as he couldn't sleep..

Also, he worked 5 days per week but told his wife from the start he worked 6, meaning he had one day per week free on his own to meet men and not be questioned about it.

He did this for the entire 30 years (and two kids) of their marriage.

People are capable of anything, if it's what they want they will find a way.

Did you post about this previously asking about accuracy of Find your
Phone?