Sex or not?

[nolovelost]

Just entered a new relationship, we haven't had sex without a condom yet and very much looking forward to doing so. We've both had recent sexual health check ups. I've been put on the POP and the doc says to wait 5 days, but the leaflet says 2. Would I be foolish to have unprotected sex after 3 days worth of pills?

Thank you.

It would totally depend on your cycle
If I was you I would continue with condoms as the Typical Use Failure Rate is another reason to double up and maintain that level of protection
Enjoy your new relationship but
Contraception and condoms all the way !

Thank you. I'm on day 11 of a typically 25-28 day cycle. And I've taken the pill for 3 consecutive days. Want to to have sex today before my 4th pill.

Surely you can wait until the 5 days recommended

I can yes!

It's really irresponsible to have unprotected sex before the advised time frame on the medication.

Then again it's really strange to be this desperate and detailed to have unprotected sex IMO. Surely it's one of those things that just happens rather than planning intercourse in a new relationship?

Sexual health tests take at least 7-10 days for results if you were tested for everything? Have you both had those results?

I would continue with condoms as doctor advised.

Seriously?

When my daughter went on the pill the doctor recommended 7 days and the info leaflet said less.
She went with 7 just in case.

Why the urgency to have sex?!?

Wait until you are fully protected. You may find he sticks around longer rather than having a shag and sodding off like a lot of men do 🙁

@doitwithlove ffs really? I'd rather do it asap....if he's going to fuck off he will anyway!
@nolovelost I get it personally older and wiser me wouldn't risk it (younger me would be all over him after the three days ) have you had a Google of the risks? I would and maybe make my decision from there.

@nolovelost

Just entered a new relationship, we haven't had sex without a condom yet and very much looking forward to doing so. We've both had recent sexual health check ups. I've been put on the POP and the doc says to wait 5 days, but the leaflet says 2. Would I be foolish to have unprotected sex after 3 days worth of pills?

Thank you.

Its 2 days for the mini pill and 7 days for the combined pill. I'm sure the manufacturer of the pill knows more about it than the GP

NHS also says 2 days for the mini pill. Sounds like the GP was making up number of days to me:

You can start the progestogen-only pill at any time in your menstrual cycle.

If you start it on day 1 to 5 of your menstrual cycle (the first 5 days of your period), it'll work straight away and you'll be protected against pregnancy. You will not need additional contraception.

If you have a short menstrual cycle, you'll need additional contraception, such as condoms, until you've taken the pill for 2 days

If you start the progestogen-only pill on any other day of your cycle, you will not be protected from pregnancy straight away and will need additional contraception until you've taken the pill for 2 days

(I'd ) be all over him in after the three days

You can be all over him, just use a condom until you definitely know you're protected by the pill.

I don't see the desperation to have sex without a condom. It's slightly less faff but doesn't change sensation for a woman. Is your new partner the one who's pressuring you to go "bareback"?

I'd use condoms for the first week to be on the safe side. See how you go on the progesterone only pill. I hated it and it gave me terrible acne and breakthrough bleeding.

Your new partner should be understanding while you find a contraception that works and not pressure you to ditch the jonnies.

It's slightly less faff but doesn't change sensation for a woman

I'm a woman and I think it does.

As nobody's mentioned it yet can we also just remember the amount of people who fall pregnant whilst on the pill if they're sick/taking other medications etc.

It's not foolproof so it's best to double up on contraception to avoid unwanted pregnancy in a new relationship.

Yes perhaps it does affect sensation.

I suppose my point was, don't enter a new relationship and feel pressured to start on hormonal contraception because he doesn't like condoms.

I've no idea if that's the case here, but I wanted Op to know that she should be the one deciding and she should be the one that says when she thinks it's safe, despite her boyfriend being impatient to have sex without a condom.

Surely in a very new relationship, you want to be as sure as possible not to become pregnant?

The mini pill is not as reliable as the combined pill, anyway.

I'd be using a belt and braces approach- condoms and pill - in a new relationship.

Is he by any chance pressurising you to ditch condoms for his own pleasure @nolovelost

The risk is unwanted pregnancy, strain on the relationship or abortion. Don't be silly

@doitwithlove

Why the urgency to have sex?!?

Wait until you are fully protected. You may find he sticks around longer rather than having a shag and sodding off like a lot of men do 🙁

Why? Because sex with the right person is amazing. I'd have happily shagged dh all day long in the first few years and we certainly never went a day without.

They've had sex, just not without a condom. I don't see the urgency at all.

@pog100

They've had sex, just not without a condom. I don't see the urgency at all.

Really? I had a coil fitted when I was first with dh, I couldn't wait to have sex with him without a condom! Op, I can totally relate to the urgency, enjoy those heady first few months/years - they're amazing

Which of you is SO desperate to ditch the condoms? And why? Surely the risk of a pregnancy in a very new relationship is great enough for you to want to stick to the 'belts and braces' approach to contraception???

It was mentioned @girlmom21