Is my female coworker flirting with me?

[guz223]

So I like my office job and I would like to keep it, thats why I usually avoid work relationships(and also because i have a girlfriend already), but this female coworker comes to my desk everyday and talks to me for a while, I thought it was normal until a few days ago when she started asking me about my girlfriend, why we didnt have kids, and then she told me she likes dating younger men (she is around 40 years old and I am 30) and tells me she has a date with a 26 years old on friday. I congratulated her but it felt a bit weird, should I tell her something so she backs off? or is doing nothing enough?

She sounds annoying. Try and not get into conversation with her, keep things professional and if she insists then tall loads about how amazing your girlfriend is.

She knows you have a gf already. Why you don't have kids is none of her business and she shouldn't be probing. She's assuming you care what age bracket she dates. Keep your distance and hopefully the 26 year old will keep her busy.

You have a partner so you're clearly not going to cheat, correct? Even if you didn't have a partner, getting involved with a colleague is just stupid. If you're smart you will keep things very professional and distance yourself. Stop talking about your personal life.

I admit its kind of my fault, I am very nice by nature and people usually think I am flirting with them when Im just being nice, I just dont have the heart to tell her to back off, I hope she is really dating that younger guy so she finally stops coming to my desk.

Keep any conversations brief and don't take an interest in her dating life. If you give an inch she'll take a mile. Think of your partner any time you're interacting in a way that could be perceived as flirting. Nip this in the bud before it becomes bigger.

The answer to your question is that it looks that way.
What you do now is up to you.

I wouldn't do nothing, she's telling you about Mr 26 Year Old so you know you're in her age range for dating! It's a ridiculously unsubtle hint
I would make sure I had plenty of pictures of my gf around my desk and if she comes over just ramble on about how amazing gf is....don't give her an in or she'll probably accuse you of leading her on (seen this happen many times unfortunately).

It doesn't matter whether she's flirting with you because you have a girlfriend already

Tell her you’re busy working and she should stick to work topics while at work.
If it doesn’t stop then it’s sexual harassment and you will need to treat it as such.

Just be pleasant and answer work related questions only. One word answers or I’m really busy and she should get the message.

When she asks inappropriate questions your reply should be why do you want to know?
This gives you thinking time and she has to justify her nosy behaviour.