Background to this, STBXH was guilty, when we lived together, at least once of going deep into my email to read my messages when my email account was easily accessible on family devices, before I changed that. He was also emotionally abusive.
STBXH uses my Netflix account on his iPad, which used to be family iPad. It is automatically signed in. (I could tell him to get his own Netflix but we haven’t separated finances yet and I’m financially vulnerable so haven’t — trying to build income). Anyway tonight he texts me that a message has come up saying my Netflix password was compromised and I should change it. Which should be fine but he NAMED the password (eg if we say the password is ‘goldfish’ he said ‘your goldfish password’. I’m sure he was genuinely concerned about the security issue — he gets extremely anxious about Internet security and is on autistic spectrum. But I asked HOW do you know my password? He said it just popped up on the iPad, a message from Apple about Netflix. I asked him to screenshot it and send as I find this hard to believe. He took a long time to reply and sent it: it didn’t reveal password and he said they must automatically blank it out when you screenshot it. I don’t believe it. Unfortunately it is the same password as my email account and I feel sick that he has very likely been reading all my emails. Obvs I will now change all passwords. But I don’t know how he got it in the first place. It’s a horrible feeling.