Younger men on dating sites

[ChloeAndRadcliffe]

Just wondering what people's thoughts are on being approached by younger men (more than 10 years age gap) on OLD? It's been happening to me quite a bit recently and I've been treating them with a hefty slice of suspicion so far. What do they want with me - I'm 42 and some of these guys are in their late 20s. I should add that I'm not one of those amazingly well-preserved 42 year olds - I look my age and I'm overweight and fairly plain. Maybe they think I've got money..? Spoiler alert - I don't.

I'd avoid like the plague, tbh.

I overheard a 20 something year old bragging to his mates recently that he loves older women as they are so grateful for the attention, easily pleased and go like the clappers (not envy). So think it must be a thing in that age group. If you just want sex I don't necessarily see the issue but I wouldn't want to shag a 20 y o. Seems a bit wrong to me

You'll always get loads of younger men on OLD sites messaging older women. Just delete them!

Agree with the previous posters.
Steer clear. A lot of them think you will be grateful for the attention.
I ignore them now but when I did engage I'd either say I'm not looking for another son or there's nothing you can offer me that I haven't had before

I was mid 30s when I was on them and got this. This is just my opinion, based on mine on my friends experience.

For the vast majority, they have a fetish for older women. The reason for that varies. Which I do think matters. Or did to me.

Most are looking for casual sex with no strings. Alot of them seemed to think all young women will 100% fall in love with them 🙄 and, us, older women can keep a better check on our emotions.

The ones wanting a relationship, usually, are men who want a mother figure to look after them. They like that older women are more likely to be established and they can move in with them.

And of course there's the 'you should feel privileged I am even looking at you' brigade.

I would rule out dating a younger man, if its Someone I met in real life, got to know and liked. But for some reason all the younger men on dating sites never came across well to me.

They want sex

I've had 6 younger men contact me in the last 2 weeks. Must be the latest trend. Makes a change from catfish!

@QuentinBunbury

I overheard a 20 something year old bragging to his mates recently that he loves older women as they are so grateful for the attention, easily pleased and go like the clappers (not envy). So think it must be a thing in that age group. If you just want sex I don't necessarily see the issue but I wouldn't want to shag a 20 y o. Seems a bit wrong to me

Urgh. So gross.

@PumpkinKlNG

They want sex

Can't they get it from women their own age? Then again, maybe they can't, and they think (as PPs have pointed out) older women will be grateful for the attention.

Yes I think that’s it, they assume older women will be gagging for it and grateful! Heard the same said about single mums (no offence to single mums I am one!) but men seem to think they are desperate so I’m guessing it’s the same kind of thing 😒

I think a sizeable proportion of them are bots tbh.

On POF I used to change my settings so I would only get emails from men a certain age, think 40-50. Not sure if you can still do this.

It stopped all the boys younger than my son and older than my dad messaging me.

It's a 40s thing. Most of them want an experience with an older woman. I shouldn't really generalize as perhaps the age gap can work for some people and they have relationships.

I've found in my 50s I get less messages from much younger men which is good.

@BIoodyStupidJohnson

I think a sizeable proportion of them are bots tbh.

Yes, definitely some of them are. I'm on Bumble and I think there are fewer on there than on apps like POF but you do have to employ the Google images reverse search sometimes.

A lot of them might not want you. They just mass-like lots of women, hoping that a woman they like might return their advances. Men who specifically want someone much older often either want to make sure you don't and can't have any more kids, or they have mummy issues.

Well, in general I'd agree it's a bit ugh and the majority are of the opinion that we're all desperate for the attention of a younger male... however I'm 39 and I met my OH on a dating app and he's 28 🤣 we've been together 3 years and own a house together!
Never felt the age difference with him, they can't be all horrors!

40s women and 20s men can often be looking for the same things.

I’m separated, not looking to marry, live with anyone or have children and prefer casual sexual relationships, like a lot of guys in their 20s I guess.

The people I have spent time with are kind and respectful. There are those who aren’t but I find that they give that away about themselves in either their approach or the way they conduct themselves in early conversations.

I’m sure they do mention my age to their mates. I mention their age to my mates. Plus they have plenty of energy and being millennials they know all about the orgasm gap! No erectile dysfunction either.