Permanently worried he’s going to end it

[TrevSoa]

How can I stop this? I’ve done it all my life and now met someone I really do love. I don’t want to mess it up by doing this. I am constantly afraid he will end it.

Work on your self esteem regardless of if you are with a him or not.

Accept you can't make anyone stay if they don't want to.

Enjoy the time you have together.

It’s so hard though. I think about it all the time. I have a good life too, good job and friend and house. I know theoretically I don’t need him. I’m just always thinking that it will end.

I was like this when I first got with my partner I thought it was never going to last and he would realise I was no good and leave me. I knew this way of thinking would really screw things up, but I managed to think to myself that if it wasn't going to last I should just enjoy it for what it was. I would take each day at a time until he came to his senses and got rid of me.
25 years later we're still together, still happy and still not taking each other for granted.
Just breathe, and see where things take you.

This is what therapy is for: understanding what drives our thinking and behaviour. If you are serious about him, you probably need to do the work. No one on here can give you a shortcut to that.