Hi,
Please help me. I’m in big trouble.
Me and my partner has been together for 9 years. We had lot of fights & disagreements in 2019. He was working in one company who was run by one couple.
While we where going through the rough patch in our relationship he started talking to his boss wife. When we went on holiday she use to call her few times and I asked my partner why is she calling you he said it’s work related. In his field of work it was quiet normal.
So I did felt it weird but I just left saying him i want him to keep limited contact with her. He agreed to it.
Few months passed and things went pretty bad about me and him & 90% topic was about that women. He use to swears to me he just hand professional relationship nothing else.
But somehow I was not able to agree I was feeling something else is going on so I kept asking him and did not give up. One day I found that I can download his wats app on my phone and check what he is up too.
He use to be online on wats app quiet a lot so I was happy to know that I will be able to see what he is doing on his wats app.
It was 1st day on my phone me observing him and the text appear of her and they both started with password so they know it’s not someone else texting.
Conversation went like -
She- what have u been Upto no text no call ..
Him- I was busy with the project
She- okey
Him- all okey ?
She - yes after hearing ur voice all good
Him- I love you
She - I love you too
Him - 💋
She - pagal
Him- I miss you
She - I miss you too
I confronted him there and then he switch of his phone and he was not ready to talk to me.
Only things got bit settle I told him to leave that job which he did not agreed at 1st then he agreed and he left the job.
How will I know what it was according to him she was just really good friend and he use to share our problems with her coz there was no one else to talk too.
He swears to me it was just friendship and I m being narrow minded and now it’s been 2 years since he left that job but I don’t trust him and we still have fights and arguments on this.
I really do love him but if he is has cheated on me I don’t want to be with him. He swears all he did was talk nothing else. He use to call her when he use to do night shift at 12am, 2am, 3am not every week but I will say pretty much few times in month.
He says u don’t listen to me atleast she was and it was just friendship.
Right now he has been providing me all kinds of proofs form last 2 years but I’m not able to past this stage where I can move on.
What do you think has he cheated or he was actually just talking due to our rough patch?
Please help I don’t want to be with cheater he has been providing me all the proofs for past 2 yrs about his whereabouts etc..
I will be eagerly waiting for ur replies
Thank you