If you moved on from an abusive relationship, where did you meet your partner?

[Notreadytotrustagain]

I'm asking because I am one year free from an abusive relationship.. I am in no way ready mentally, emotionally or psychologically for another relationships and put all my focus on my daughter.. She's my pride and joy. I'm not remotely interested in sex, intimacy or sharing life with anyone else other than my daughter.. I'm not sure I will ever trust again..
However, today I took my daughter to a soft play indoor type centre. There was a single father there with his daughter and we were chatting etc.. He asked for my number and said we could arrange a soft play play date as our daughters hit it off etc, so I gave it to him, I thought there was no harm.. He's been WhatsApping this evening, just general chit chat, nothing out of the ordinary. He is quite good looking, but there won't be any pursuing and I will make that clear from the offset. But it did make me think how do others move on from their previous abusive relationships and learn to trust again.. Where did you meet your now partner? Did it take a long time? How did you know you were ready?

I lived my life. Did things I wanted to do. Enjoyed myself. You need to know how to be happy just you and your daughter. Love yourself.

Go on holiday with your daughter, do fun things with your daughter. Make a life for yourself with your own hobbies, interests and happiness.

You might meet a man along the way who you want to let into your life. I did. If you don't meet anyone along the way, you might want to try OLD. I learnt to trust again because I learnt about myself beforehand. I knew who I was as a single woman and what I wanted. I took my new relationship at my own pace and he was a good man and respected that. We're not togethe now but I know if I was to start a new relationship, I would do the same again. Right now I'm living and loving myself. Cliche but the right thing for me.

You are an absolute joy OP. I don't think you realise how far you have come. My God it's so lovely to read about a woman who has got out and is thriving.

Have you read up on red flags? Have you done the Freedom Programme?

I see no harm in taking this slowly, flirting and seeing where it goes. It's a great test to see if your boundaries are nice and strong and you can have a healthy relationship. Are you having counselling or have a support system where you can discuss this relationship?

If you don't feel ready then just make it clear you want to be friends.