Need to put my big pants on

[cantsleepwontsleep1]

Split up with partner four weeks ago (live together but only him on mortgage) I have two children from previous relationship, 11 and 9. I've been desperately trying to find somewhere to rent but not having any luck, as I wanted it to be in the catchment area for youngest as hasn't got a secondary school place yet.

He has put so much pressure on me to move out tonight, it's like I don't know him anymore. Please, please if you are ever thinking of moving in with someone with only their name on the mortgage please don't. We had a lovely rented house a few years ago, before I met him, all in my name and I bitterly regret moving me and my kids in with him. So stressed right now. He's not violent, just passive aggressive with a touch of malice and I can't wait to move.

Hi I know it's not ideal but have you considered going into a hostel temporarily, you will be classed as a priority with children at your local council office,!! Good luck

OP, my heart goes out to you, what a terrible situation to be in, what a spiteful man you are with, I have PM'd you.

Thank you. Not sure how to access private messages on the app. I'm new to this, but thank you anyway. Can't stop crying. The future is so uncertain. Some days I feel strong and others, like tonight, I feel so hopeless. It's like he is just tossing us aside without a care in the world.

@cantsleepwontsleep1. I so hope this sorts for you ok, but can I say thank you for alerting women who put themselves in this position without thinking of ‘what if if it goes wrong’ .

I feel so so stupid. He totally swept me off my feet. I will never put myself in this position again.

@tarasmalatarocks thank you. If this post helps just one person then I'll be happy

@cantsleepwontsleep1
I just want to thank you for highlighting the problem for other women too, they could be walking into a trap if the house is in their partner's name.
Don't panic, and get some advice tomorrow from Citizen's Advice, your council or housing associations. I was in a similar situation but I was a tenant in common with my former partner. I have relocated 70 miles away and found temporary work. You are in a priority situation as you have young children. Please don't despair, I was struck dumb last summer, but things have come together like a jigsaw, and, although terrified of relocating, it has been an adventure. I hope you won't have to relocate if your children want to stay in the area. You sound so brave, just stay calm and seek advice tomorrow. Best wishes to you and your family.

PS. There's another thread on here this evening " Exhausted and terrified" posted by Sadness21 This is a similar situation, poster has children of similar ages.

@carreterra thank you so much for your kind words. I feel stronger now just reading these replies.
It's my children I feel sorry for. My youngest was so looking forward to cycling to secondary school next year. It's so true that you never really know someone 100%.

I will search for that thread, thank you,