Should I leave my partner

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Hi please help I’m in two minds!

I have previously left my partner of 10 years but always go back on myself but there really is never any change I think I might finally just about had enough.

He works hard he is an ok dad buys them things pays bills the expected. But most weekends maybe. 2/4 he goes to golf on a Saturday morning or football goes out drinking does other stuff too and don’t return until the next day. Today he came back of his face at 9 this morning slept until 2 woke up for an hour and I just woke him up. I spent so many weekends alone I dream of having a ‘real’ partner to have family weekends!! He’s left his car at his friends is moaning he needs a lift to it that’s 20 mins away. Why should I. I’m 26 Im so bored of the boy behaviour. I doubt myself am I over reacting?

He came home at 9am, slept until 2pm and you wonder if you're in the wrong?

He is a selfish twat. I would be making plans to leave, to be honest.

How many kids fo you have? Please don't have any more with this waste of space.

Why on earth would you stay with him? God knows what he's getting up to if he's off his face at 9 am.

Do you have your own finances?

He has left the relationship.
Hopefully you are ok financially.

So he's basically using you as a place to sleep, shit and fuck? Lovely.

What's drawing you back to him? How can we help you keep your resolve this time?

Also if there are kids you can’t keep leaving and going back. That is very confusing and emotionally harmful to them

My kids don’t notice a thing I am financially sorted myself. The house is mine I have my own car I run my own cleaning business. I think it’s a habit of having someone home I guess I’m just glad to see I’m not over reacting! Me and kids have a great life ourselfs it’s just a shame there dad is an arse lol

My children are also older 9 and 7 😊

Of course they notice that their parents split up and get back together.
And 9 and 7 are very young
It’s fantastic that the house is yours and that you are financially independent
Tell him it’s over and mean it.

I have previously left my partner of 10 years but always go back on myself but there really is never any change

Isn't it irrelevant whether you're being unreasonable about this latest episode (you're not by the way)?

Fact is, you've tried to leave before, you're not happy, it's not going to get better.

Just make that final push.

And they know their father is useless - children are very astute.

Your children notice more than you care to realise, never assume that they do not notice because they make no comment or want to see you happy.

You need to break the cycle completely also because it suits him to keep you around. He really does think you have mug written on your forehead and has no respect for you whatsoever.

This is where MN don’t realise that not every single child has the most amazing “home life” and perfect parents!! The kids will survive, they sound like they have a lovely life and an excellent mum.

However I do agree that they will notice their dads behaviour & I do agree that you need to kick that dickhead to the curb! You sound a right catch, fair play to you and good luck!