25, think relationship has fizzled out, have a house and dog together - what to do?

[TTlover]

Hi everyone.

I have come here for some advice please. I am 25, have been with my partner for 8 years. Two years ago, we bought a house that we have done renovations to (has just been valued at £400,000ish). We also have a dog.

Over the course of the past two years, I feel that our relationship has fizzled out. There is hardly any bedroom activity. I find him childish and stroppy.

We are currently away for the weekend in a caravan. We went to the beach and we’re waiting for a table, I was standing back a bit to let the people on the table finish their drinks, someone cut in front of us and got the table. My partner marched off and blamed it on me for standing back instead of being more assertive. I just don’t want to be treated this way anymore.

I keep pretending to mask over the fact that we are just not for each other anymore. I’ve always dreamed of marriage and children in the next few years so have stayed, but I’m beginning to realise that I can’t do that with this man.

I’m scared to sell the house, what will happen to the dog and where I will go next. Also whether I will find someone else or not in the future. I just feel like time is ticking away on me.

Has anyone been through the splitting up process before and can guide me please?

What would be my first moves? I don’t have any savings.

Thank you.

Equal deposit?
Does he have any idea you want to split?
Honestly your 25, I would be celebrating the fact you figured this out so young with only a dog and a house to sort.
My advice, don’t time share the dog, clean break!

Omg you're 25
That's sooo young

Please please leave now before you have kids
You will meet someone else

Hi @TTlover, I came to the same realisation recently. I'm 28 and been with my partner for ten years and own a flat together.
What I've found helpful so far is talking to a therapist to get my thoughts and feelings straight, as well as journaling. I have access to counselling through work, you might have it as well. I've also put together a list of things that will need to be done, such as gathering up paperwork about the house ownership, starting to build up some savings, thinking about where I want to live in future etc.
I'm still scared of selling the flat, starting over and meeting someone else but slowly I'm becoming less scared and to see it as an exciting new beginning. We can do this!

25! That is so young. Just break up with him OP. Don’t waste your time on this relationship. Sell/share equity and move on.