Would you wish an ex happy birthday?

[Yescheese]

I know this is minor and pathetic but I have recently split up amicably with someone I really liked because of circumstances we couldn't find a solution to. We have been NC for a couple of weeks, I fully accept we are doing the right and mature thing but miss him lots. No idea if he still misses me. His birthday is coming up. Should I text just to wish a happy birthday?

After a recent break up, when you still miss him and a part of you is no doubt hoping he still misses you and will respond in kind and you’ll rekindle? No.

I wish a couple of my exs from years ago happy birthday from time, because we’re genuinely friends. That’s a different situation.

Even if you aren’t hoping to rekindle - it’s still a no. It’s too close and raw, especially if you’re trying to go NC because you miss him so much.

If you're NC then don't message.

Not in your circumstances I wouldn’t. It’s just prolonging the agony.

Thanks both. I mean, we hadn't agreed not to contact each other or anything, I think we are both just leaving well alone to avoid prolonging things as there isn't really a way around the issue.

You make sense though, there's no real point. I wouldn't want to be mates at this stage (not saying never) and there isnt a way forward as a couple.

Thanks all*

I definitely wouldn't.

Yes, if I am honest with myself I am still wishing deep down that we could make it work (it would take a huge compromise on his part). I also would like to send the message just to be nice as I know I would appreciate it but accept I don't know how he's feeling (could have moved on already!). But yeah, it's the advice I would give. Sorry, just doing some overthinking!

Don't contact. The issue that may follow is that you start chatting again, him with only one intention and it's not a relationship intention.
Be kind to yourself and your wellbeing by not sending that message.