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What do you think - could he be interested?

21 replies

PollyIndia · 23/07/2021 17:12

I own a business and have known the guy that owns the business next door for 5 years. I've always thought he was quite attractive but there's never been anything flirty between us at all. I broke up with my 4 year ex in Oct, and have seen a bit of this other guy as both our businesses have suffered with the lockdowns so we've chatted a lot. Recently, I've picked up a vibe. He's made an effort to talk to me, and popped in for coffee quite a bit. I caught him looking at me yesterday when he was having a meeting at my place. I suddenly definitely really fancy him, out of nowhere! Feel it in my tummy.
Then today he popped in and DS was there. He offered to teach him how to make pizza in the kitchen and suggested today. He went off running errands then called at 4 and we went over. It didn't feel massively flirty there... though there was defo longer eye contact than I'd expect, and he asked what I was doing at the weekend... what do you think? Totally just friend vibes, or could it be something? I am totally out of practise at flirting, and he's my age but no kids, so I'd never want to make the first move... plus awkward if i had read it wrong as I see him fairly regularly! Though he has other restaurants so is often at others of his places, so I could avoid him probably - I'm not around for lots of the summer anyway. What do you think?

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66babe · 23/07/2021 17:19

Oh ... I think looks promising ?
You wouldn't expect any flirtiness going on if DC there to make pizza

Maybe drop him a text and say something like
" thank you for the pizza session , can I make you lunch/ dinner / buy you a drink to say thank you ?"

Take it from there , good luck

PollyIndia · 23/07/2021 17:29

Totally outing myself here if anyone knows me....
but i could offer him a free pilates session on the reformer. That's my business... also would defo know if any flirting then, and also not too embarrassing if he says no?

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66babe · 23/07/2021 17:32

If that's his thing then yip might be perfect
You could then adjust his pose ...😂

PollyIndia · 23/07/2021 17:42

Well I was thinking that...Blush

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HollowTalk · 23/07/2021 17:47

He is definitely interested!

HollowTalk · 23/07/2021 17:47

But is he single?

66babe · 23/07/2021 17:49

Go for it !
Life is too short sadly - enjoy every happy moments you can 💐

0DETTE · 23/07/2021 17:50

What @66babe said is perfect. Go for it!

PollyIndia · 23/07/2021 17:57

Hollow talk I don’t know.
He did have a girlfriend in Mexico he mentioned but that was pre pandemic - maybe 2/3 years ago. We’ve been chatting about things we’ve done at the weekend etc and he’s not mentioned anyone

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PollyIndia · 23/07/2021 18:41

I have asked a mutual friend if he is single before I offer up the Pilates

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0DETTE · 23/07/2021 18:50

One to one Pilates is too intimate and intense . Just suggest a drink / lunch.

PollyIndia · 23/07/2021 19:07

You can tell I have been out the flirting game for a very long time. I’m 45 and don’t have great self esteem - like I feel ok about myself generally but not in relation to men or flirting or having anything to offer

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SchrodingersMat · 23/07/2021 19:09

Nooo don’t offer pilates, sorry no offence! Pp had it perfect above, you need to say thanks for the pizza making, can I get you a coffee sometime to repay you

Stigofthedump40 · 23/07/2021 19:13

Oh god no to pilates.. feels super awkward to me

Snugglybuggly · 23/07/2021 19:22

Sounds like he's interested!

PollyIndia · 23/07/2021 19:28

Ok, got it, I won’t do that!
I already said thanks without asking him for a drink so I think I missed that moment. I’ll hold fire and see what happens I guess... if nothing else, remembering I actually am still a red blooded woman and I can still fancy people is good! I seriously had my doubts!

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Lookingoutside · 23/07/2021 23:14

OP if he’s not single presumably he’ll do the right thing. That’s on him.

He does sound single though. Exciting!

PollyIndia · 24/07/2021 09:38

What is exciting is realising I am capable of fancying someone again! My last relationship was so draining, plus the lockdown/business stress, I was scared that bit of me was dead!
Anyway my plan is, that the mutual friend who also works for me, will do some digging and find out if he is defo single then if he is, I am going to ask him out for a drink. Because I’m alive and if he says no, will only be a fleeting embarrassment.

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Hawkins001 · 25/07/2021 14:58

All the best op

Lookingoutside · 25/07/2021 15:24

Did you ask him OP?

iwouldlikearefundonmybody · 25/07/2021 22:51

Sounds perfect! Definitely trying to impress you. Grin

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